Both women and low-status men tend to struggle with the concept that what the opposite sex wants does not tend to be what they believe the opposite sex should want, which usually tends to be what they themselves want.
Never argue with the market. It doesn’t listen, it doesn’t change, and it always wins. This is as true in the sexual and marriage markets as it is in any business market.
They become the man they want, then wonder why the man doesn't want them.
Feminism teaches that men desire what woman desire. Namely resources, protection and intelligence. But biology determines what men want, namely youth, beauty and fertility ( with a dose of submission and sweetness thrown in). Biology always wins.