It’s quite common for women to attempt to justify suboptimal female decision-making on their cultural and familial influences. For example, one female commenter was defending the successful, but unhappy Hypergamouse character Kate on the basis of her presumed influences:
How many generations of girls have been taught that: being feminine is the worst thing they can be; their lives should be defined by a career and that being a wife & mother is practically slavery; and even if they get married they should still have a career in case they get divorced? Very little in Clown World America is conducive to the formation of healthy male-female dynamics or to understanding attraction between the sexes. Girls are told that being a girl boss is the best thing they can be, and plenty of them believe it.
This is true, absolutely 100-percent true, but irrelevant. First, because men who are systematically misled in a similar manner get cut no such slack. How many generations of boys have been taught that being masculine is toxic, that the key to being attractive to women is being a) confident and b) yourself, and that the nicer you treat a woman, the more she will like you?

When it all inevitably goes to Hell, how many are inclined to feel any sympathy for the Delta who gets shot down in flames instead of being amused by his ineptitude with women? How many of the women who are mocking the hapless young man for being a loser are on their own false path upon which they were invited and encouraged by the very same influences?
If we mock a foolish young man for what he has become, why should we not do the same for a foolish young woman?
Of course, Sigma Game readers know the distinction lies in female solipsism; even a woman who has escaped the false path will tend to emotionally identify with a young woman who is walking it. The false path of intersexual projection tends to hold more appeal to women than to men.
Second, and much more important, it is irrelevant because no amount of explanation, justification, or ex post facto sympathy will change the current position of the deceived young woman, or the misled young man, who is on a false path. You can empathize all you like with a young woman who was given erroneous directions when leaving Chicago for New York City, but no amount of empathy and understanding is going to turn her car around if she’s already driving through Denver on her way to Los Angeles.
The fact of the existence of cultural propaganda explains, but it in no way excuses, bad decisions by young women. Indeed, whereas the Gen X women can at least point to their ignorance of the likely outcomes, their Millennials and Gen Z counterparts have no defense, because all they have to do is look around them to see the destinations that await them at the end of their chosen paths.

And neither ignorance nor susceptibility to propaganda are a substitute for destiny. What will be, will be because you have chosen it, regardless of why you chose it.
I'm sure I've commented on this before. My mother told me" "be yourself." My dad took me aside and said: "That's nonsense, be Cary Grant."
The real clutch is if men and women can course-correct after realizing the true trajectory and destination. Just admit you were given bad advice and move on, fix things as best you can. You may not get your miles back, but at least you won't end up in the scrapyard.