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It's my understanding that this post refers to a long-term-leading-to-marriage ranking primarily? Or does it have application between women as they interact in their own social dynamics?
As a Christian, for reasons both practical and spiritual, I'd be trending to the right column of that list.
Regarding the top-tier women and their Alpha/S…
It's my understanding that this post refers to a long-term-leading-to-marriage ranking primarily? Or does it have application between women as they interact in their own social dynamics?
As a Christian, for reasons both practical and spiritual, I'd be trending to the right column of that list.
Regarding the top-tier women and their Alpha/Sigmas husbands ("rounding error" - that's pure gold) , I wonder if and when they finally couple up it is for different reasons, and that they are in an entirely different head space. Sort of like the uber-rich. I can't understand their world or motivations, other than to know that mine are nothing like theirs.
I am reminded, though, of two cautionary tales from my past with the chaste jane zone. I knew a couple of these from church and social scene. Absolutely virgins. But they were in a nearly crazed pursuit of the local alphas in college and the workplace. Watching a 4.5 - 5.5 girl attempt to poach the boyfriend from an easy 8 was something to behold. Thinking it through, maybe I am conflating "virgin" with "chaste". The spirit wasn't chaste here even if the physical was a virgin.
This is the closest thing I can think of to a female Gamma in the sex side of the SSH. She would freak out / nuke reject if normal guys even talked to her (begone, and take your Delta stink with you!). She morphed into a a purring kitten around the alphas, regardless of their "taken" status and hot girlfriends. Last I checked she finally married in her late 40s to a guy who looks like a fire hydrant. The other one? Same, but even worse.
On paper, they were a match for the guys at my level. The fact that both of them arrived in their 40s unmarried I think bears that out.
I recall two women I used to work with, both babes. One was chaste and was looking for the *perfect* man. She married in her late 30s and will not have children of her own. When she married, she still looked good (especially good for her age).
The other was very into having a good time and was almost engaged when we worked together (they did not marry). I could only guess if she were normal or frisky. She did not marry until in her mid-40s. She also let herself go and is now a Jane. Sad, but she wanted to party, travel, and see the world before settling down. As she neared 40 without being married, she expressed some regret, but apparently the regret wasn't enough to make her settle down.
The guy she had in our 20s vs. the guy she married... you can guess the difference. 20s was a solid Delta, maybe Bravo, great guy, friendly, handsome.
But I'm sure that marrying in her 20s would really have put a dent in her plans to see the world and experience life.
Women regularly overestimate their own attractiveness, especially nowadays when liberal society fluffs up their egos. Secular liberal women are, of course, worse ("every woman is a 10"), but the broader culture affects Christian women to some extent as well.
"For permanent relationships, which I assume is the primary interest of those reading here.." To answer your first question I would take this to mean primarily marriage minded males