One of the negative aspects of the digital world is the way in which it permits both men and women to dwell in an imaginary environment in which the opposite sex partners they rate are absolutely unattainable in real life. Just as Tinder and other social media permits women to attract attention from men who will never, ever, consider them as potential girlfriend or wife material, games and movies permit men to indulge themselves in fantasy relationships with the kind of women who would not even notice them in real life.
It’s no mystery why sexual activity, birth rates, and marriage rates are all down around the world. Far too many young men and young women are effectively enmeshed in a Matrix of their own overstimulated imaginations. And in doing so, they permit themselves to evade the first rule of attraction. The quality of the members of the opposite sex attracted to you is directly proportional to how attractive you are.
The legalization of pornography was a death blow to society. Porn absolutely destroys assortive mating. Both young men and women abandon the ideal of marriage and children for porn culture. I know Vox’s feelings on freedom of speech, and even though I want to disagree, I have reached the point where reality on the ground kills the ideal.
This is the painful, good truth.
You attract what you deserve.
Be better.