Take Your Shot

Delta Game, or rather, the lack thereof

A female reader laments the tortoise-like way Deltas approach women:

There was this delta guy that I thought he was cute. I told my friend about it. After several months, my friend told him that I find him cute. Then, the delta started sending me messages and trying to set up dates with me. They need a lot of encouragement to reach out.

For some reason, both Bravos and Deltas are incredibly reluctant to approach women. The Bravos are, for the most part, just lazy. They’re attractive enough that sub-par women will approach them; anytime you see a tall, good-looking guy with a surprisingly average wife who tends to call the shots, you can be fairly confident that you’re either dealing with a Bravo or a High Delta. When a Bravo doesn’t inherit a highly attractive woman from his Alpha, he usually settles for the first moderately attractive woman to aggressively pursue him.

Bravo wives REALLY REALLY love their husbands. To an alarming degree.

But Deltas seldom have that luxury; for the most part, they don’t even get noticed by the women who would be appropriate for them. And when they do get noticed, they are almost totally incapable of picking up the very subtle signals that women who are unfamiliar with competing for Alphas - which is most women - send to men in whom they might be interested.

It might help if women understood that Deltas are terrified of “bothering” women. They are a lot more comfortable with expressing their interest through acts of service, like helping a woman move from one apartment to another, or fixing things, than they are in making a direct approach that risks rejection. In this, they are somewhat like the Gammas, who also prefer an indirect approach.

Note: if a man is helping you with something and he’s not either a blood relative or obviously roped into it by his friend or his girlfriend, he’s interested do something. Not being a Delta, I never helped any woman with whom I wasn’t already involved, except for a few times when a Delta friend asked me to help him help some girl he liked. He’s not doing it just because he’s a nice guy who prefers to spend his time helping others.

Deltas have no game and women shouldn’t expect them to have it. Just tell them what to do and they’ll devote themselves to doing it, but never forget that they require direction. Just as they’re never going to proactively figure out what they should be doing at their job, but require Alpha vision and Bravo policing, they’re never going to be proactive about pursuing a woman or managing the relationship.

That being said, if you’re a Delta, find yourself some steel and start taking a few shots. Even the biggest Alphas get shot down: I’ve personally witnessed a) Dolph Lundgren, b) Prince, and c) Charles Barkley, just to name a few, take their shots, get shot down, and accept it with good grace. I’m not saying to take shots out of your league, I’m saying that if you catch that girl that you think is kind of cute occasionally taking glances at you, go ahead and go for it.

It’s very, very easy. It literally couldn’t be easier. Walk directly up to her, look her in the eyes, and say “hey.” That’s it. That’s literally all you have to do. How she responds will tell you whether she is interested.

If she says anything that begins with “what?” or replies in a flat or irritable tone, or by saying “hey?” in a questioning manner, then she’s not interested. Smile, say “never mind,” and walk away. But if she says “hey yourself!” or replies in a upbeat, happy, sultry, or suddenly shy manner, there’s a good chance she’s interested and any shot you take will have a low risk of rejection.

Don’t be the tortoise. Don’t wait for “the right moment”. Because doing so will usually cause you to miss your window of opportunity with her.