My boss never briefs with specificity or enough timeframe so I have to manage up if I don't want to get squeezed everytime at deadline with new information or direction. If he won't answer my questions then he can get stuffed. He wants his name credited on everything, so he can field some fair questioning. Have I missed something here?
I was at a course for work, and the dappy girl running it asked “any questions?” after every other sentence. Pretty much everyone asked questions, to which she either said “I’ll get to that” or “that’s beyond the scope here”. Excruciating. A fellow gamma was sitting in the front row with me. I observed his face twitch every time she asked for questions, but he didn’t crack. I was mostly daydreaming at the clouds halfway through, so I didn’t ask any questions either, and I thought shoot, if he can do it so can I.
He was the only person to score 100% in the test at the end.
This is another reason why I love AI. Many times at work I have plugged vaguely worded tickets into Cursor, and it has been able to figure out what’s being asked for, within the context of the codebase, and I don’t have to ask any clarifying questions.
It's totally inadequate when especially women pull the "we should make decisions as a team" card. Girl, have you been in a sports team ever? I mean, do you think teams vote decisions or something? Coach says or team captain says do this, it's a done deal. Hell, he might say you're cutting my wood tomorrow, that's what you do.
I dunno, some activities are time bound. And constraints left unsaid can make activities useless/unproductive. But, yeah, peppering the requestor with questions, marginal or not, is beyond annoying.
The other side of this, just as aggravating, is when someone acts like they're asking for advice when what they're really looking for is permission. They already know what they want to do. They just want you to tell them it's a good idea so they won't feel responsible if it goes badly.
If you give them an answer they don't like, they start arguing with you.
I've gotten pretty good at spotting it and staying out of it, unless it's my wife or daughters. Sometimes they genuinely want my opinion. Sometimes they want something else. The trick is figuring out which conversation you're actually having.
If it's a behaviour of asking for permission, let them know that you're about to burn their membership to your local country club. He will run to do it now, he will fail or succeed, or you will ban him for life. You are his friend, and he is yours. And your friend will do it now.
When people know that inaction leads to getting thrown out of the club, they will act.
My boss never briefs with specificity or enough timeframe so I have to manage up if I don't want to get squeezed everytime at deadline with new information or direction. If he won't answer my questions then he can get stuffed. He wants his name credited on everything, so he can field some fair questioning. Have I missed something here?
I was at a course for work, and the dappy girl running it asked “any questions?” after every other sentence. Pretty much everyone asked questions, to which she either said “I’ll get to that” or “that’s beyond the scope here”. Excruciating. A fellow gamma was sitting in the front row with me. I observed his face twitch every time she asked for questions, but he didn’t crack. I was mostly daydreaming at the clouds halfway through, so I didn’t ask any questions either, and I thought shoot, if he can do it so can I.
He was the only person to score 100% in the test at the end.
Women, deltas, gammas = most people. This is annoying for relatively few people. Find out who those people are and don't aggravate them by doing this.
You're wrong. Just because people engage in the behavior themselves doesn't mean others doing it doesn't annoy them.
Fair statement. I overreached.
When you’re low status, every question is a test which you can fail and be punished for.
This is another reason why I love AI. Many times at work I have plugged vaguely worded tickets into Cursor, and it has been able to figure out what’s being asked for, within the context of the codebase, and I don’t have to ask any clarifying questions.
It's totally inadequate when especially women pull the "we should make decisions as a team" card. Girl, have you been in a sports team ever? I mean, do you think teams vote decisions or something? Coach says or team captain says do this, it's a done deal. Hell, he might say you're cutting my wood tomorrow, that's what you do.
Excellent net-net write-up. Thank you. Continued success.
True and helpful if the authority has proven to be honest and trustworthy.
I dunno, some activities are time bound. And constraints left unsaid can make activities useless/unproductive. But, yeah, peppering the requestor with questions, marginal or not, is beyond annoying.
Yes.
The other side of this, just as aggravating, is when someone acts like they're asking for advice when what they're really looking for is permission. They already know what they want to do. They just want you to tell them it's a good idea so they won't feel responsible if it goes badly.
If you give them an answer they don't like, they start arguing with you.
I've gotten pretty good at spotting it and staying out of it, unless it's my wife or daughters. Sometimes they genuinely want my opinion. Sometimes they want something else. The trick is figuring out which conversation you're actually having.
Ah, yes, that old routine. The version where permission is already given is especially aggravating.
Me: "Please fix issue x however you see fit."
Resident delta: "ok, we have the following options: *2000 word wall of text"*
Option A is my preferred solution. Which should I choose?"
Me: *wants to punch him and say that I don't care about specifics for the fifth time this week*
If it's a behaviour of asking for permission, let them know that you're about to burn their membership to your local country club. He will run to do it now, he will fail or succeed, or you will ban him for life. You are his friend, and he is yours. And your friend will do it now.
When people know that inaction leads to getting thrown out of the club, they will act.
Even when we pray, be still and know.
What you are saying is right and all but I dunno man it depends
But how shall we fuck off, master?!?!
"A well timed silence can have far more eloquence than speech."
Better to remain a fool in silence than to open your mouth and remove all doubt