She Got What She Wanted
Decisions, particularly youthful decisions, have lifelong implications
Decisions have consequences. This is the result of prioritizing education over marriage and career over children. She’s a very attractive woman; even at 42 she’s slender and considerably prettier than the average twenty-something. Given that she was almost certainly an 8+ in her prime, she would have had scores, if not hundreds, of opportunities to marry an above-average man.
Don’t confuse my analytical observations for sympathy, though. As far as I’m concerned, any woman who puts fruit on a birthday cake instead of chocolate icing like God clearly intended more than merits whatever personal Hell on Earth she has constructed for herself.
One of the harsh truths of life is that one’s windows of opportunity are not open forever, or even for very long. This is just as true for men as it is for women. My biggest failures, three missed opportunities in the late 80s and early 90s, including two that would almost certainly have made me a billionaire Steve Jobs-like figure, can’t ever be fixed. The opportunities were there for a limited period of time, 2-to-4 years, and then the windows were closed and they were gone.
Nor am I alone in this regard. In reading both the Steve Jobs biography and Masters of Doom, a history about my acquaintances John Romero and John Carmack, it’s striking to see how many massive opportunities that were right there for the taking were missed. Consider a few of them:
Nolan Bushnell refused to buy one-third of Apple for $50,000. That would be worth $1.2 trillion now.
Ron Wayne returns his 10 percent stake in Apple two weeks later because he’s simply afraid of failure. That would be worth $355 billion now.
Al Vekovius chooses his existing software-by-mail team at Softdisk over a 50-percent interest in Carmack and Romero’s company-to-be.
Ken Williams refuses to give id Software a measly $100,000 cash advance on a $2.5 million stock deal to acquire them that id had pitched to Sierra Online.
Carmack forces Romero to resign after the Quake game design process bogs down due to the challenges of development of a true 3D engine.
You only get one shot. Make it count. Be decisive and prioritize what is actually important to you, not what other people tell you that you should be prioritizing. Most people are idiots and absolutely none of them have their skin in your game. At the end of the day, you’re the one who is going to have to lie in the bed you’ve made.
My 19 yr old son broke up with his girlfriend because she enrolled in a private college (with student loans) to pursue a music degree so that she can be a schoolteacher. He didn’t want the prospect of being saddled with the debt and the obligation she would have to work to pay the debt during her prime childbearing years. She was heartbroken. We were heartbroken, too. She would’ve made a wonderful daughter-in-law. She wants a career, he wants a family.
Not only did she fail to have children, from her looks and education she almost certainly took a spot that a young man wanting to have a family could have filled. The opportunity cost is not only her own fertility, it is also the prevention of young men being able to start families. This is dysgenic, and toxic to society. Preferential treatment for women in employment outside the home is an inversion of the proper order, and inversion is Satanic.