Race and SSH in Action
Observations from a birthday party
A SocialGalactic reader observed the SSH in action at a children’s party.
At a birthday party that my oldest son was invited to. It’s amazing to see how the kids operate. You can see the SSH in operation. You can also see the racial grouping.
There’s some White kids and some Asians at the party. The Asians are off doing their own thing. The White kids are in two groups, a Chad and Stacy group and a nerdy group.
There’s a HAPA kid who tries to get the Chad boys to chase him by stealing their ball. That worked for a while. Now he’s being ignored by the Chad group. He’s wandering around wondering why nobody is playing with him.
It’s always important to remember that there is no one grand hierarchy, and also that the various hierarchies are fractal. But this is a very typical pattern that will tend to present itself as soon as there are sufficient minorities to break off and form their own hierarchies. If there had been fewer Asian kids, both the Hapa and the Asians would likely have been members of the nerdy hierarchy.
What I find interesting is that the Hapa kid did not join either the Asian group or the nerdy group, but instead tried to force his way into the Chad group. One tends to suspect a Gamma in the making there.
When you put things in stark visual terms such as the illustration above, it becomes a little easier to see why Gammas develop such an intense hatred during their formative years for the Chads and Stacies alike. Of course, in reality, they’d all have their backs turned to him and wouldn’t be paying him any attention whatsoever, despite his best efforts to demand it.
Father of the boy at the birthday party.
The Hapa kid could've played just fine with the chad and stacy group. All he had to do was stay in the basketball bouncy house. If he'd just done a few dunks, dropped the ball, chased it with the other kids and let them have their turns then he would've been fine. The kids weren't being mean to him at all. However he just had to change the game to something where HE was the center of attention and not giving everybody else their turn.
You can see how this behavior pattern leads to failure in life. By the time that this kid has a few years being with the other kids at school then they will be so sick of his games and nonsense that nobody will want to play with him. Give this kid a childhood of this type of behavior then social failure will just be part of who he is.
You can also see how the hatred for the chads and stacys grows in kids like this. It's a way of hiding responsibility for their failures. It wasn't them repeatedly taking the ball and trying to force a new game where they are the center of attention and making everybody around them mad. No that isn't it. It's they were excluded by those horrible chads and stacies. These kids build their delusion bubble to avoid blame for their own repeated bad actions.
I have a sister-in-law (wife's sister) who's a single mom. Her son is a 10 year old pure gamma with all the raised by a single mom pathologies you'd expect. My 2 oldest children are getting sick of him. Before when we'd either go to his town for vacation or he'd come to my house, my kids would be excited to be with him. However with each visit and his laundry list of behavior my kids are less and less excited to see him each time. Plus during each visit he gets a shorter and shorter tolerance of his crappy behavior from my kids. I'm sure in another few years of visits my kids won't even want to play with him anymore.
Childhood behavior patterns get established young. Little kids on the playground are very savvy. They know the behavior patterns and which kids are going to ruin things. You can see the truth of the SSH just by watching your kids play.
Here in Brazil depending on where you are almost everyone is mixed African-European-Indigenous in some amount, and of course you can clearly see the hierarchy, the whiter the higher.
Of course there are always some outliers, one of my best friends is almost completely Indigenous and high status, but the more I go North, the more I'm treated like a movie star.
A fun fact regarding brazilian genetics, there are almost 50x more descendants of Indigenous women than indigenous men, for reasons I believe everyone here can figure out.