Preference is not Being Intimidated

Many women don't accept that men have an absolute right to their feelings

One theme that is relentlessly pushed by the female-centric mainstream narrative is that men are not approaching women, less interested in dating women, and uninterested in marrying women due to the fact that they are somehow intimidated by the magnificent radiance that blinds them when they gaze upon the sublime glory of modern strong, independent, self-confident women.

Consider this example:

Modern women embrace independence, success, and self-confidence. Some men admire these traits but feel intimidated or unsure how to navigate them. They wonder: “Why are men not dating anymore? Because we feel out of place next to someone who doesn't seem to need us.” Masculinity norms taught men to provide, protect, and lead. But independent women challenge these old scripts. Men who lack emotional adaptability might retreat from dating, unsure how to contribute in a world where partnership means equality rather than caretaking. This discomfort doesn't mean men dislike strong women. Instead, it highlights anxiety over shifting gender roles and uncertainty about how to fit in. Therapy often encourages men to explore these insecurities and reshape their definition of masculinity.

First, the solution proposed is comical. Let’s summarize the advice: if you are intimidated by women to the point that you don’t want to date them, let alone marry them, you should seek therapy and reshape your definition of masculinity. Sure, thinks the average man who lacks emotional adaptability, I’ll get right on it! Instead of getting bitched at on a date, I can get bitched at in therapy and pay four times more for the privilege. Sounds great! I’ll absolutely give up video games, weed, porn, and sports on a 70-inch screen for that!

Second, this is an obvious lie. Women are neither independent nor self-confident. They might maintain a brave front, but underneath the hard shell of every self-styled “strong independent woman” is a frightened mass of neuroses that is terrified of being rejected, or worse, initially accepted then abandoned, by a man. So the entire frame is constructed upon a false foundation.

I have never, ever, met a single “strong independent woman” who is capable of meeting my eyes for more than a few seconds before looking down in conflict-avoidant submission. These women are, for the most part, emotional bullies who are accustomed to queen-beeing it with other women and bossing around conflict-avoidant Deltas, Gammas, and Omegas who find public verbal altercations to be uncomfortable. I always find it amusing how the moment they run into a man who isn’t afraid to openly contradict or call them out in public, they immediately fall uncharacteristically silent, often with a facial expression that indicates they are sucking on a very sour lemon.

My advice: anytime you observe someone is relying upon silence for social dominance, break the silence.

Third, no male-female relationship is ever equal. Equality does not and has never existed. At best, it is a fool’s ideal. No woman who claims she wants equality actually means it; the absence of female empathy means that women have absolutely no idea what the male situation even is or how much emotional sacrifice equality would necessarily entail.

This is exactly what is not happening in any way, shape, or form when people tell a woman that men find her intimidating.

Fourth, there is a confusion, if not an intentional conflation, between men understanding when they are unnecessary and unwanted and men being intimidated. Just as a man doesn’t usually apply for a job at a place where they are not hiring, men aren’t going to pursue a woman who declares, or otherwise signals, that she neither wants nor needs a man. Furthermore, a man who knows he doesn’t meet a woman’s declared standards is far less likely to pursue or express interest in her, because most men are naive enough to take women at their word.

As an aside, this is probably the single most significant reason for why men who don’t take women literally are the most reliably successful with women. The woman who declares that she won’t consider any man who is less than 6’2” and makes less than $250,000 per year probably can’t tell the difference between 5’10” and 6’2” and doesn’t actually register the difference between any two numbers with more than three digits. Please note that I’m neither joking nor exaggerating here; a recent study of white English majors at university, most of whom are in the top 12 percent of the population at the highest literacy level, discovered that 58 percent of them “cannot differentiate between literal and figurative speech” when reading a Charles Dickens novel. If we take racial and sexual averages into account, that indicates 98 out of 100 women communicate in a primarily figurative manner.

Fifth, female solipsism means that women are intrinsically incapable of grasping that men’s opinions and feelings exist in a space that is entirely distinct from themselves, and take absolutely no account of their own opinions and feelings. Indeed, the very idea that a man fails to factor her situation into his feelings is offensive to women, despite the fact that men do not do that, and moreover, have an absolute right to their own emotional independence.

It’s really not that hard. Most men, and pretty much all good men, have no desire to intrude where they are not wanted. So when women signal, intentionally or not, that they find men unnecessary and undesirable, those men are not only going to refrain from expressing any interest in them, they are going to seek to avoid them entirely.

Be very careful what you publicly demand from the people around you, because you will probably get just that. When it comes to women, “intimidating” is best understood as a synonym for “disagreeable, unpleasant, preferably avoided”.