Never pay any attention to anything women say about intersexual relations. I can’t stress this enough. They will ruthlessly and relentlessly mislead men in the interest of protecting their own solipsistic take on life, the universe, and everything. And they will do so without necessarily even realizing that they are spouting a fountain of falsehoods.
As Steve Sailor put it in his Law of Female Journalism: The most heartfelt articles by female journalists are demands that social values be overturned in order that, Come the Revolution, the journalist herself will be considered hotter-looking.
I was asked by a reader to respond to this post by a woman who fancies herself a dating guru despite the fact that, apparently, most of her friends are very unsuccessful with men. We could, of course, delve into that seeming contradiction, but since I don’t care even a little bit about her, we won’t. It is entitled Why Men Marry Mid Girls.
Like every other girl, I think my best friends are the absolute best. But no seriously, they are. They are smart, funny, gorgeous, interesting and dynamic. They have incredible jobs, are unbelievably qualified, and they have big dreams for all the things they’re going to achieve in life. But some of the best ones are single.
I’ve struggled to understand this. But then this tweet from a very questionable, very non Alpha male (since no one who feels the need to actually state that they are alpha) explained the mystery of the universe.
Men don’t want to marry my best friends. They want to marry mid.
Stop right there. First, her friends are not gorgeous. I can say that with utter certainty because gorgeous women very seldom have female friends. I have been well-acquainted with several legitimately gorgeous women, undeniable 10s, the kind of women who were paid six figures every year for nothing more than their looks.
None of these beautiful women had a regular set of friends. At most, they might have one childhood friend they’d retained over the years, but even that was a little unusual. The reason is pretty simple: most women hated them on sight. And no group of female friends ever wanted to go out in public with them, because the group’s lead girl couldn’t tolerate being an invisible number two to the genuinely beautiful woman.
I remember once waiting to meet a swimsuit model with whom I am still good friends, who at the time was simultaneously being pursued by Prince and a very high status married man whose name most men would know. As she walked into the restaurant lobby, the woman next to me hissed “look at her, she looks like such a bitch!” It was hard not to laugh, as my friend was, and is, one of the nicest people I’ve known over the last four decades.
Now let’s look at the evidence. Here is the woman with the “smart, funny, gorgeous, interesting and dynamic” friends. It’s her self-selected, self-curated picture, so it’s a fair representation. And that’s a 6. An expensive, well-maintained 6 who is making the most of what she’s got, but a man would have to have a pretty powerful case of curry fever to rate her any higher than that.
Second, the concept of the “beautiful mid” is intrinsically contradictory. If a girl is beautiful, she isn’t mid. Mid refers to female appearance, not her average SAT scores, her wit, or her salary. What we have here is the typical female projection of what interests and attracts her to men. What man reading here doesn’t feel a cold frissom of horror run up his spine at the woman’s description of her friends?
When these guys go on the 1 out of 10 dates with someone who has a razor sharp wit, is gorgeous and/or has a job they actually feel excited about, they find this woman way too challenging because they realize they’re going to have to keep up - with the banter, with the career, with the expectations of salary, of constantly leveling up.
Here is an accurate and expert translation from what she said to what men hear:
Challenging = massively irritating pain in the posterior.
Razor sharp wit = relentlessly pedantic and disagreeable.
Has a job they actually feel excited about = focused on career, not family.
Gorgeous = A 5 who doesn’t threaten the Lead Girl 6.
They’re going to have to keep up = absolutely zero loyalty.
A third factor is the context. No one moves to New York City in order to settle down and get married. They go there to have their Big Adventure in the Big City. I was good friends with several attractive women, 7s and 8s, who moved there for work in their 20s or early 30s, and while all of them ended up married, and the unmarried one at least had a child, none of them came even close to finding a husband while they were there.
This isn’t that hard. Men don’t want what women want. Women don’t want what men want. This is what makes the sexes compatible and complementary.
Challenging = massively irritating pain in the posterior. You got that right.
Speaking from experience (dating a Russian model and two other women in the same league), women at the top end of the attractiveness scale are generally untrustworthy and dishonest. There’s an addiction to shallow compliments that becomes so strong that other values are drowned out. I consciously put all that aside and married an honest woman with strong family values…and have no regrets today.