Intelligence is Not Attractive

Neither men nor women are attracted by intelligence

Of all the attributes that an individual can have, intelligence is probably the least-understood in terms of human attraction. In fact, for most people, intelligence is an actively dysattractive attribute.

This is unwelcome news to smart girls and brilliant boys alike, but it is simply confirmation of what a lot of people on the right side of the bell curve have suspected since they were in junior high. It’s also directly contrary to what every smart girl and boy have been assured by their parents, teachers, and other adults, which is that once they get to college or into a more intellectually-friendly career, their intelligence will not only be appreciated, but be attractive to others.

This is not true. Even the smartest academics and scientists tend to actively hate their colleagues who make them feel stupid; they are not drawn to them. In fact, the smarter a woman is, the more she tends to resent a man who is observably more intelligent than her. And like all women, she will go for what passes for the lab’s Alpha over its intellectual shining star every single time.

Speaking as someone who is, statistically speaking, more intelligent than everyone reading this with the exception of six of you, and who has also attracted women who objectively rank in the top 0.001 percent on the planet, I can absolutely assure you that on average, my intelligence has hindered me considerably more than it has helped me.

And do let me stop you before you try to make the intelligence - financial success - attractive leap of logic. The first link is valid only for IQs up to a relatively low level of 130 or so due to the 2SD communications gap. As for the second link, I present the following rebuttal:

“Ladies…”

Born in 1955, Forbes first listed Gates as a billionaire in 1987; he was the richest person in the world, according to Forbes, from 1995 through 2017.

Unlike a lot of highly successful celebrities, Gates is legitimately smart; he was a National Merit Scholar in 1973. He was also a billionaire at 32, and the richest man in the world by the time he was 40. And this was literally the best he could do.

Neither Jill Bennett nor Melinda French were heinous. They’re both 5s; a more generous man might even be inclined to raise the latter up to a 6 on the basis of her obvious good health and friendly smile. But this is one of the most intelligent men on the planet, whose success at the time was literally unique in the entire world! If there was ANY connection between intelligence and attractiveness, the man would have been swimming in more supermodels than a professional soccer player who also happened to be a rock star.

Now, it’s true that some women claim to be sapiosexual, which is to say that they are specifically attracted to intelligence. However, in my experience, this is merely one aspect of hypergamy; a woman tends to be attracted to a man who is more intelligent just as she is attracted to a man who is taller. It’s not so much that she’s attracted to his intelligence or his height as she doesn’t want to tie herself to a mental or literal midget.

Intelligence is just a tool. A man is much better off using it to figure out what actually attracts women to him than he is in relying upon it to attract women to him. If you can use your intelligence to create social dominance, or to successfully synthesize the appearance and behavior of higher status men, that’s a much more effective approach.

Here’s a historical example of putting the theory into practice. After twice losing very attractive girlfriends to members of world-famous bands in two years, I quite naturally concluded that I had better start my own band if I didn’t want to repeat the experience a third time. And within months of releasing Psykosonik’s first single, Silicon Jesus, and hitting the Billboard Top 40 club chart, we were meeting girls who were fans of the band and were quite happy to ditch their boyfriends in favor of hanging out with us.

Believe it or not, girls loved this sort of thing back in the Rave Days.

The lesson here is not to take up music, but rather, to stop relying upon what you’ve got and instead use what you’ve got to figure out the areas in which you can improve.

Women, I think, have a more instinctive grasp of the dysattractive nature of intelligence. While they wrongly attribute it to “male insecurity” and ignore the fact that their own hypergamy makes them less attracted to their intellectual inferiors, they are on the right track when they hide their power levels, as smart girls who also happen to be pretty and popular often do.

In any event, if you’re an intelligent young man who can’t figure out why you’re metaphorically underkicking your coverage, try hiding your intellectual power level and work on improving the other aspects of your life that you know women like. Lift. Dress better. Stop talking about yourself and learn how to listen and make innocuous small talk. Cultivate indifference. Whatever you do, understand that no woman is ever going to be physically attracted to the slimy grey organ inside your head.

This is not how it works. This is NEVER how it works.