How to Disqualify Yourself
A long list of things that women dislike
As I’ve repeatedly admonished, one simply can’t take what a woman says she finds attractive, or what she says women in general find attractive, at face value. There are far too many complications and variables involved to reach any reliable conclusions that are supported by the observable evidence.
On the other hand, I think women complaining anonymously about things they actively dislike can probably be trusted to some extent, especially when one can see certain patterns that tend to be very much in harmony with what we know about the SSH and some of the differences between high-status and low-status men.
Lack of respect for others, especially in how they talk and treat people, is an instant turn-off.
Lying over mundane things (usually leads to not communicating over things that could be considered confrontational)
When a guy’s always bragging or trying too hard to show off, it’s a major turn-off. Like, just be chill and genuine!
This applies to anyone really, but being super negative All. The. Time. Nothing is right, everyone else is the problem, they simply CANNOT just sit down and enjoy where they are and the people they're with.
Cruel to animals
Poor control over their anger.
Can’t do anything for himself. I’m talking basics like laundry and washing dishes, basic cleaning.
Littering, poor hygiene, lack of respect for people, places, the planet
"Jokingly" putting others down then saying "It was just a joke!" like it’s a get-out-of-jail-free card. Ewww
Interrupting me with a totally unrelated question or statement, blatantly not listening or showing interest in what I’m saying.
Act superior.
Negging. Or any of that other "pick up artist" bs
When a guy’s rude to waitstaff or anyone in service jobs. It’s a major red flag.
If constantly makes everything sexual. This has made me stop relationships with men in talking stages multiple times.
Thinks that others are below him.
Drinking too much
Getting angry over nothing.
A guy that is narcissist, self centered and always seeking of attention.
Lying, if you can lie so blatantly on little things imagine what you can do over big stuff.
Not knowing basic shit about household cleaning/maintenance and feeding himself.
This list is little more than an extended description of typical Gamma behaviors, with slight dashes of Alpha and Omega mixed in. Some of these things are irrelevant; women may not like negging or other elements of pick-up artistry, but they obviously work and they’re tactics, not behavioral characteristics, anyhow.
And, of course, women love superior men; the operative word there is “act” and not “superior”. Which means you have to actually be superior for any purported superiority to be attractive, they really don’t like it when you try to fake it. It’s similar to my advice to stop trying to impress women, and instead focus on developing your various strengths to the point that you are genuinely impressive without any need for exaggeration or exhibition.
It’s the difference between using a greenscreen of an impressive office library for your Zoom calls and simply having bookshelves lined with luxury editions of fine literature behind you. It takes more time and effort to accomplish the latter than to arrange for the former, but the effort is a) its own reward and b) immediately impressive without you having to say anything about it.
Pick one of these bookshelf Zoom backgrounds to give yourself an edge in this regard. Don’t worry, it’s going to work. There’s a subconscious phenomena behind this. Whenever you see a person, you associate them with their surroundings. Television crews had worked it out a long time ago, and use it to great effect to this day. When you see a person on a screen, you will tie whatever is near their face in the background to your impression about them. Putting a bookshelf in your Zoom background will make you look well-read, sophisticated and smart.
It might look impressive on camera. But it’s fake, and most women will detect this sort of fakery sooner or later, and often much faster than you imagine. So don’t fool yourself, and make a fool of yourself, by attempting to fool others.
And above all, get a grip on your inner Gamma and excise those negative behaviors!
It might be interesting for the female readers here to share their thoughts about the list, and how correct and complete it is.
As a female soldier who served in Iraq, I’ve seen firsthand how different types of men—Alphas, Sigmas, Deltas, and Gammas—behave in ways that either attract or repel others, especially women. One of the most memorable individuals was Karl, an ex-Marine who everyone adored on our dusty little FOB. Karl had been through a lot—combat injuries, medevac, even breast cancer, which people found oddly endearing. His charm was effortless; he was always genuine, honest, and helpful, traits that are attractive no matter what. During our downtime, another girl and I started building porches, and instead of offering to take over—which would have taken the fun out of our project—Karl would bring us tools and compliment our work. He knew how to be supportive without overstepping, making everyone feel seen and appreciated. He also had this quirky habit of eating around a cookie so that it stayed perfectly round until the last bite. Women would tease him about it, and Karl would just laugh it off, drawing people in with his easygoing nature. Even during meetings, Karl would sit there with a beer in a cozy—technically against the rules—but nobody cared because everyone loved him. He wasn’t the most physically attractive guy, but his authenticity and kindness made him the most appealing on base. You have to realize, there are a LOT of men and very few women, and Karl got ALL the female attention.
Karl’s authenticity and easy-going helpful nature stood in stark contrast to others on base who tried to use pickup artist techniques but ended up embodying a lot of the behaviors women find unattractive. For example, when I was building sidewalks to avoid walking through the muddy moon dust, one Gamma kept saying, “That’s not a sidewalk! It’s not on the side of anything.” When I asked him what he’d call it, he shrugged and said, “Not a sidewalk.” It was dismissive, unhelpful, and reeked of negativity—classic Gamma behavior. While the rest of us were trying to make the best of things and help out, Gammas like him focused on nitpicking and trying to prove themselves in meaningless ways, which just pushes people away.
Gammas tend to view humility as a weakness, and this often shows up in their attempts to appear knowledgeable or superior, but it only highlights their insecurity. Meanwhile, men like Karl, who are genuine and humble, naturally attract others without having to try so hard. In the military, you learn to value men who can see through nonsense—Alphas and Sigmas, in particular. Sigmas are quick to cut through pretenses and demand honesty, which can be intimidating but rewarding when you drop the act. Alphas might engage with playful banter before getting real, but they respect those who are straightforward and competent.
Navigating the military hierarchy, I’ve seen Delta commanders often pair themselves with Alphas for support, recognizing that Alphas’ confidence and decisiveness make them reliable—traits that women also find attractive in men. Deltas can be hardworking and run their units like a family, but sometimes they forget their roles, needing guidance from their Alpha counterparts or even from those around them to stay on track. In contrast, Alpha commanders surround themselves with competent Bravos and budding Alphas, which keeps their teams focused and effective.
When I needed to get around Iraq, I avoided the red tape of scheduling rides through an office. Instead, I’d scan a platoon, spot the Alpha, and know he’d help without hesitation. Sigmas might be indifferent, and Gammas often complicate things, but Alphas are consistently dependable and straightforward. Regardless of rank, they can make decisions quickly and without unnecessary drama, which makes them invaluable in both personal interactions and operational dynamics.
From all of this, I’ve learned to appreciate men who embody the qualities like honesty, reliability, and genuine respect for others. Those who steer clear of the negative behaviors listed—like arrogance, unnecessary criticism, and lack of self-control and discipline—are the ones who truly make a positive impact, both in personal relationships and in the broader social dynamics around them. High-value men like Karl don’t just navigate these hierarchies; they enhance the journey for everyone around them by being genuinely impressive without any need for exaggeration or pretense.
Pro tip: buy and build your own printing press for leatherbound books. Then publish said books and take a picture of them. This will make the photo you take for your green screen zoom background all the more impressive. Like and follow.