Hotter Than She Thought
Social proofing is an aspect of sexual attraction
You can’t talk women into being attracted to you. You can’t argue them into it, you can’t logically reason them into it, and above all, you cannot generate it by demonstrating the strength and intensity of your own attraction to them.
If you want women to be more attracted to you, then you have only one option. Be more awesome. Demonstrate more intensity. Get bigger and in better shape physically. Dress a little better. Improve your social proofing by going out in public with better-looking, higher-status friends of both sexes. Become more accomplished at whatever it is you do, ideally to the point that people not only notice you, but point and whisper when you enter the situation.
And if you don’t have what it takes to join the local in-crowd, then make your own. It doesn’t actually take much, all you really need is two attractive male friends to stand out from the crowd and cause young women to start paying attention. An attractive female friend - a genuine friend, not a woman you are orbiting and secretly pining for - is even better.
The key, of course, is to distinguish between your attractive friends and your unattractive friends, and understanding which evenings out are appropriate for looking to meet new women of interest and which are appropriate for just having a good time with the boys. You don’t have to ditch your friends, you should never ditch your friends, but you do have to understand when they are serving as social anchors and hindering your ability to talk to women who might otherwise, in more favorable circumstances, give you a shot.
I remember going on a moderately successful first date with a girl, and getting invited to a second date at a club where I was encouraged to bring my friends. I brought my best friend, an ugly Gamma. I got ghosted after that date, and I never thought that he might have been part of the reason until now.
Haha...yes! One of the guys in my sister's social circle back in college was an absolute hottie. As soon as he started talking people realized he was socially clueless and awkward. All his pals would bring him out to clubs and tell him to just sit there and smile and not say anything. They used him to draw girls while they did the talking. According to my sister they were all very successful. They had a nickname for him but I don't remember it. It was a type of shiny fly fishing bait.