Truth. Yet truth is also decided in the battlefield. Divine trial by combat. You don't know your limits until you try. This is true of all men. Whatever their SSH. The dunning Krueger effect is at play for a reason most with those who know least. They will find their place in the hierarchy only after being brutally beaten into place by circumstance, environment, or both. Let the combat commence, and God will ensure the victor out of those working and fighting and willing to attempt even if they aren't considered a top pick by the world at large. Preconceived notions of suitability are like faith without works; Dead. We can theorize post hoc as to why a certain man won and attempt to emulate, but his particular skills, personality, genetics, environment are all uniquely his birthright, and emulation may fail. You think you're the best, that you're unique, that you're better? I say Godspeed good sir, but you'll have to prove it on the battlefield of existence. The best will prove superior to circumstance, the worst will find their bitter limits. We cannot short cut the calculation a priori via modeling. It has to play itself out.
Similar to what was said here, Chris Broussard pointed out that Lebron is using his influence to help his son, as many fathers have done in the past in all the major sports. While I dislike Lebron’s style, I had to agree.
For me this has been vital for me to realize and accept my inherent limitations that I have at no fault of my own. I have learned that asking why I am what I am is not as important as accepting what I am. Accepting what I am allows me to be better at it and fully embrace it. I have never felt more whole or complete after understanding my own limitations and strengths and to structure my life around my strengths and raising the bar of my baseline faults.
I have a need for some advice based on this then, and greatly appreciate any comments. Looking into my past I can definitely see strong gamma influences especially during my early teenage years. Thankfully a stint in boarding school later on, where I encountered positive peer models, who helped me from falling further into the delusion bubble and even clawing out.
As Vox has put very well and many times, the gamma is a ticking time bomb just waiting to ruin both his life and everyone around him. I’m not exactly sure where I am now, but every so often I feel the gamma urges trying to drag me back in, so far I’d like to say that hasn’t happened but one can never be too sure given the very nature of delusion.
If then, I shouldn’t try to LARP as someone else (which feels right) what should I do then if I don’t want to be a secret king?
You shouldn't LARP, because that acting. Don't act. Be. Become and be something else.
The whole point of a rite of passage, leaving your childhood idyllic village, having to slay a dragon, and then coming back home as a man, it's about becoming someone else. That's a about no longer being a child. Because you can't be a naive and innocent child anymore. It's not an option. That's about now being a man. Don't play a delta. Be a delta.
Don't LARP, but a Gamma should be learning from what Delta does.
Mainly you want to develop good follower skills. Who is the leader, what does the group want, and how do you support the leader and the group? Choose to be a good follower, not the secret king who knows better than everyone else and should lead instead.
Helps if you have a Christian faith, since it requires us to die to self, which provides a spiritual foundation for putting aside our failed ways of living to adopt an other-centered life of loving service.
Cool man, thanks SirHamster. If I can take a little more of your time, what about being put in positions of leadership, I.e management? My father runs a small business that I will eventually inherit. While I’m not part of the leadership yet, I am being essentially groomed for it. I don’t want to let him down or ruin what he’s built.
There is a Frank Mir clip where he talks about getting beat on the ground and “looking for a way out” “being a bitch.” Basically his point was you first have to acknowledge and own that you looked for a way out, hate that about yourself, then work through that mental pain to improve. Own the failure, hate that you did it, then one can improve. I suppose most of life’s improvements have to follow that pattern.
The kid is super tall, but I don't think we know anything about his personality at all. Eric Trump and DJT Jr. seem pretty good, so perhaps young Barron is too, /shrug
It’s best to play the hand you were dealt in life like it’s the hand you wanted. Vox is right. Don’t lie to yourself. When married one should support your man and ride or die, and never ever marry a gamma. It’s just this simple.
Only by submitting to Reality which is ultimately God. Do you even begin to be able to leverage it.
Just as Scientific discoveries is discovering existing limits and parameters and making it work for us.
As for Alpha men having Delta and Gamma sons. This also likely explains very oft n the failson issue that a few of them had. The fact that Alpha cannot be trained means it must be discovered. And having many sons as spares is key to being able to choose an Alpha to succeed him.
Ever since I started reading you a few months ago, I’ve been trying to figure out how to become a Bravo. An alpha seemed impossible, but it seemed like a Bravo would be achievable. All I would need to do is become a little more confident and find the right Alpha to support. This article finally broke through that idea and made me accept that I will always be a Delta.
In retrospect, I don’t actually like Alphas. I’ve had Alphas as bosses, but those were always the ones I’ve disliked the most. They were just too aggressive for me. My favorite bosses have consistently been Brovos, Deltas, or women. That might be the biggest barrier for me becoming a Bravo, and that’s ok. I’ll just try and be the best Delta that I can be.
As I repeatedly stress, behavioral patterns are very difficult to change for a variety of reasons. You probably lack the empathy required to be an Alpha or a Bravo, so it's best to focus on being the best, most reliable Delta you can be.
I can't really speak to changing an entire rank, but on the OP mention of cowardice - that can be fixed. I grew up physically slightly below average, pacifist weak father, and no athletic role models. I just forced myself to learn to fight - initially cluelessly trying karate and ninjitsu but moved onto boxing, BJJ and muay Thai. Forced myself to spar, then forced myself to compete full contact. It worked. Accumulated skill, reference experiences, and physiological development massively reduced the nagging cowardice. I think it's an achievable goal to pick a weakness of your rank that bothers you and focus on just fixing that. One thing at a time.
I think truthfully figuring out what you are and what you want in view of that is beneficial, regardless of what category you fall in. Conflict avoidance is natural and nothing wrong with that.
A successful delta might actually lead the most happy and content life out of everyone. Bravos probably in second place until the day comes when they are expected to take over for their Alpha. True sigmas, I have no idea.
Truth. Yet truth is also decided in the battlefield. Divine trial by combat. You don't know your limits until you try. This is true of all men. Whatever their SSH. The dunning Krueger effect is at play for a reason most with those who know least. They will find their place in the hierarchy only after being brutally beaten into place by circumstance, environment, or both. Let the combat commence, and God will ensure the victor out of those working and fighting and willing to attempt even if they aren't considered a top pick by the world at large. Preconceived notions of suitability are like faith without works; Dead. We can theorize post hoc as to why a certain man won and attempt to emulate, but his particular skills, personality, genetics, environment are all uniquely his birthright, and emulation may fail. You think you're the best, that you're unique, that you're better? I say Godspeed good sir, but you'll have to prove it on the battlefield of existence. The best will prove superior to circumstance, the worst will find their bitter limits. We cannot short cut the calculation a priori via modeling. It has to play itself out.
Similar to what was said here, Chris Broussard pointed out that Lebron is using his influence to help his son, as many fathers have done in the past in all the major sports. While I dislike Lebron’s style, I had to agree.
Julien Edelman had his dad on his podcast. I recommend it.
For me this has been vital for me to realize and accept my inherent limitations that I have at no fault of my own. I have learned that asking why I am what I am is not as important as accepting what I am. Accepting what I am allows me to be better at it and fully embrace it. I have never felt more whole or complete after understanding my own limitations and strengths and to structure my life around my strengths and raising the bar of my baseline faults.
I have a need for some advice based on this then, and greatly appreciate any comments. Looking into my past I can definitely see strong gamma influences especially during my early teenage years. Thankfully a stint in boarding school later on, where I encountered positive peer models, who helped me from falling further into the delusion bubble and even clawing out.
As Vox has put very well and many times, the gamma is a ticking time bomb just waiting to ruin both his life and everyone around him. I’m not exactly sure where I am now, but every so often I feel the gamma urges trying to drag me back in, so far I’d like to say that hasn’t happened but one can never be too sure given the very nature of delusion.
If then, I shouldn’t try to LARP as someone else (which feels right) what should I do then if I don’t want to be a secret king?
You shouldn't LARP, because that acting. Don't act. Be. Become and be something else.
The whole point of a rite of passage, leaving your childhood idyllic village, having to slay a dragon, and then coming back home as a man, it's about becoming someone else. That's a about no longer being a child. Because you can't be a naive and innocent child anymore. It's not an option. That's about now being a man. Don't play a delta. Be a delta.
Don't LARP, but a Gamma should be learning from what Delta does.
Mainly you want to develop good follower skills. Who is the leader, what does the group want, and how do you support the leader and the group? Choose to be a good follower, not the secret king who knows better than everyone else and should lead instead.
Helps if you have a Christian faith, since it requires us to die to self, which provides a spiritual foundation for putting aside our failed ways of living to adopt an other-centered life of loving service.
Cool man, thanks SirHamster. If I can take a little more of your time, what about being put in positions of leadership, I.e management? My father runs a small business that I will eventually inherit. While I’m not part of the leadership yet, I am being essentially groomed for it. I don’t want to let him down or ruin what he’s built.
Question: Are you able to do the lower/lowest levels of the position in that company in a respectable manner?
Vox answered, and he has much better qualifications than me to give advice for leadership/management.
Learning to be a good follower will give you experience on what followers want from leaders.
Forget about that. You're not ready for it yet. If you can't even develop good follower skills, you'll never be capable of functional leadership.
Thanks for the advice and taking the time to respond.
Michael Sartain puts it that children's influences come from:
1. Genetics - 60%
2. Outside influences - 33%
3. Parental influence - 7%
Parental influence is the least, which makes sense. Let children be who they are and allow nature to take its course.
LeBron is annoying because he is not Jordan and he knows it — which is both an absurdly high bar, but also no excuse for LeBron.
I have a hard time believing Lebron doesn’t believe his son can make it. Can’t imagine he wants to see him wash out of the NBA as a bust.
There is a Frank Mir clip where he talks about getting beat on the ground and “looking for a way out” “being a bitch.” Basically his point was you first have to acknowledge and own that you looked for a way out, hate that about yourself, then work through that mental pain to improve. Own the failure, hate that you did it, then one can improve. I suppose most of life’s improvements have to follow that pattern.
I'm looking forward to watching the comment-Gammas "Actually" this one.
"Actually, TV told me I can be whatever I want to be."
I think a lot of alphas struggle with the Idea that a lot of their tendencies can’t easily be taught past a certain age.
Just from the look of him, Barron Trump may surpass his father. Future God-Emperor, dare we hope?
The kid is super tall, but I don't think we know anything about his personality at all. Eric Trump and DJT Jr. seem pretty good, so perhaps young Barron is too, /shrug
It’s best to play the hand you were dealt in life like it’s the hand you wanted. Vox is right. Don’t lie to yourself. When married one should support your man and ride or die, and never ever marry a gamma. It’s just this simple.
The timeless words of the reknowned moral philosopher, Popeye the Sailor Man are an instructive guide here: "I yam what I yam and I yain't no more."
This is a curious echo of the great "I Am That I Am".
Only by submitting to Reality which is ultimately God. Do you even begin to be able to leverage it.
Just as Scientific discoveries is discovering existing limits and parameters and making it work for us.
As for Alpha men having Delta and Gamma sons. This also likely explains very oft n the failson issue that a few of them had. The fact that Alpha cannot be trained means it must be discovered. And having many sons as spares is key to being able to choose an Alpha to succeed him.
Ever since I started reading you a few months ago, I’ve been trying to figure out how to become a Bravo. An alpha seemed impossible, but it seemed like a Bravo would be achievable. All I would need to do is become a little more confident and find the right Alpha to support. This article finally broke through that idea and made me accept that I will always be a Delta.
In retrospect, I don’t actually like Alphas. I’ve had Alphas as bosses, but those were always the ones I’ve disliked the most. They were just too aggressive for me. My favorite bosses have consistently been Brovos, Deltas, or women. That might be the biggest barrier for me becoming a Bravo, and that’s ok. I’ll just try and be the best Delta that I can be.
As I repeatedly stress, behavioral patterns are very difficult to change for a variety of reasons. You probably lack the empathy required to be an Alpha or a Bravo, so it's best to focus on being the best, most reliable Delta you can be.
I can't really speak to changing an entire rank, but on the OP mention of cowardice - that can be fixed. I grew up physically slightly below average, pacifist weak father, and no athletic role models. I just forced myself to learn to fight - initially cluelessly trying karate and ninjitsu but moved onto boxing, BJJ and muay Thai. Forced myself to spar, then forced myself to compete full contact. It worked. Accumulated skill, reference experiences, and physiological development massively reduced the nagging cowardice. I think it's an achievable goal to pick a weakness of your rank that bothers you and focus on just fixing that. One thing at a time.
I think truthfully figuring out what you are and what you want in view of that is beneficial, regardless of what category you fall in. Conflict avoidance is natural and nothing wrong with that.
A successful delta might actually lead the most happy and content life out of everyone. Bravos probably in second place until the day comes when they are expected to take over for their Alpha. True sigmas, I have no idea.
"They were just too aggressive for me."
Understanding that you don't even want what you thought you wanted can be the wisest thing.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a Delta; some of the best men I've ever known(including my dad) have been Deltas.
Same here.