Dodging Bullets
It is counterproductive to take women at their literal word
One of the chief dividers between high-status men and low-status men is that high-status men seldom take anything women say at face value, particularly as it relates to their preferences and objectives for the future. This isn’t about honesty, it is much more akin to the essential distinction between rhetoric and dialectic.
Because women are very much centered in the Now, their extrapolations about how they will feel when the future is the Now are very seldom accurate. The vast majority of women I knew in high school never wanted to get married, or so they claimed. The vast majority of women I knew in college never wanted to have children, or so they claimed. Most of them did both.
The young men who wanted to get married and have children, and who took these young women at their word, never went on a second date with them. As it happens, those women tended to either a) get married and have children with men who metaphorically patted them on the head and ignored their posturings, or b) never got married and never had children.
Remember, even a radical feminist who is ideologically opposed to both marriage and children will completely abandon all of her professed ideals for a sufficiently high-status man. See: Amanda Palmer. Whether that’s a good thing or not is an entirely separate matter: See again: Amanda Palmer.
If you’re the leader and she’s joining you on your ride, then you make the calls. And never forget that in the dying society in which we live, young women are literally programmed from childhood to reject marriage and motherhood; the fact they so easily throw off that programming down the road is further evidence for why their purported future preferences should be ignored, at least initially.
Of course, it’s an art, not a science. Some women do lack all societal conscience and genuinely prefer to live a barren life alone, and obviously, are best left to their preferences. The key, therefore, is to listen. When a young woman is expressing her current preferences, is she actually thinking and speaking for herself, or is she simply parroting the current groupthink that she thinks will give her status with her female peers? The former should be respected. The latter is safely ignored and will change when her social circle does.
What’s worse is seeing fathers insisting on setting their daughters on the university/career path. With all that we know of such places, and still they persist.
A younger gal-pal of mine proclaimed on social media, “I only date men who wear eyeliner.” She had been watching a The Killers video and thought the lead singer was hot. A Bravo who was going to ask her out saw her proclamation. He thought it odd, but asked her out anyway.
They are married and have children now. She never did date a man with eyeliner.