This is like negging. It works, but for most of us only when we aren't trying to do it. The moment she picks up that you're being indifferent on purpose, it stops being indifference and starts being a move, same as negging does. Then it isn't going to help you.
The practical takeaway might be that it's fine to be a little oblivious. If she's interested and you don't react right away, she's usually only going to get more interested. So err on the side of missing the signal rather than overreacting to something that might not even be there.
lack of control means he could potentially destroy her. imagine if those two were marooned on an island together.... after a while she's thinking "jeez, this guy really doesn't care, what's going to happen if i ask him to share the last coconut?....."
The real distinction is not indifference as performance, but self-possession as reality.
Most men are not rejected because they care.
They are rejected because their care immediately becomes need, bargaining, resentment, or theater.
They enter an interaction with open sincerity of objective, already trying to win something: approval, desire, validation, emotional confirmation. That hunger is visible long before a word is spoken.
Courtesy without pursuit is disorienting because it removes the usual transaction.
No flattery.
No hostility.
No punishment.
No chase.
Just a man standing inside his own frame, unprovoked by attention and uninjured by its absence.
That is not cruelty.
It is sovereignty.
The mistake is thinking women are drawn to contempt.
They aren’t.
Contempt is just another form of obsession.
What unsettles people is the presence of someone who is neither seeking nor defending himself.
And a man who does not need to be liked, desired, understood, or emotionally managed becomes difficult to categorize.
And in a culture where almost everyone is begging to be chosen, the person who is not auditioning becomes impossible to ignore.
It really is fascinating how they can't leave indifference alone. They have to test it every which way, and if the indifference gives way to some sort of care or reaction, it's like they breathe a sigh of relief and move on.
What's even more fascinating is how, even if they decide the guy is a total jerk, that sort of "hatred" can shapeshift into adoration in an instant.
Emotional drama is to women what the sex drive is to men. They are the "emotionally dynamic" side of the two genders. Guys are typically low-emotional and continuously static. So trying to get a strong reaction from a guy has been a long-spanning pastime.
Women need reorienting more often than not, especially when it comes to relationships. A good man is stalwart in his expressions of interest and disinterest, basing his reactions in reality instead of whatever machinations his brain has summoned. Being real like this can either ground women back to reality, or create a kind of cognitive dissonance that causes them to spiral for a bit.
Should men maintain the behaviors described in this post during courtship, long term dating, early marriage and long term marriage? To what degree should men express gratitude to their significant other during the phases of a relationship? Or to "engage positively with them"?
Taking pages from Anna Karinina, the alpha cycled between charm and detachment/indifference. Anna's delta husband seemed to be indifferent to her - his dedication to his work and the marriage was absolute. Levin seemed to express interest in Kitty leading up to their wedding and then post marriage established a level of rigidity is he is the leader of the couple and that he shall be firm with her rather than soft.
I saw the word "Discombobulation" and then thought, wow, we really are finally going to get that one gloves-off and hard-hitting Studio 54 documentary that we have all not really been asking for, which finally answers the question, "why did Disco allow itself to be mbobulated?"
Kinda goes into the normie take that women only like assholes. Under the Rational Male model emotional indifference is interpreted as a high status marker. Some guys are sufficiently high status that the women go to him, not the other way around. Indifference marks him as being attractive to numerous women and she ain’t nothing particularly special. The draw of hypergamy is women wanting to get with men that are typically out of their socio/economic reach. Indifference is a polite rejection for not meeting the bar. So she’ll be miffed for a while because she wasn’t up to the standards of that guy. Who’ll likely have free rent in her head for a time.
A spinoff Hypergamouse comic centered around Dag would be awesome.
This is like negging. It works, but for most of us only when we aren't trying to do it. The moment she picks up that you're being indifferent on purpose, it stops being indifference and starts being a move, same as negging does. Then it isn't going to help you.
The practical takeaway might be that it's fine to be a little oblivious. If she's interested and you don't react right away, she's usually only going to get more interested. So err on the side of missing the signal rather than overreacting to something that might not even be there.
Lack of reactivity signals that she lacks control over that man, which is both appealing and a source of anxiety to her.
lack of control means he could potentially destroy her. imagine if those two were marooned on an island together.... after a while she's thinking "jeez, this guy really doesn't care, what's going to happen if i ask him to share the last coconut?....."
The real distinction is not indifference as performance, but self-possession as reality.
Most men are not rejected because they care.
They are rejected because their care immediately becomes need, bargaining, resentment, or theater.
They enter an interaction with open sincerity of objective, already trying to win something: approval, desire, validation, emotional confirmation. That hunger is visible long before a word is spoken.
Courtesy without pursuit is disorienting because it removes the usual transaction.
No flattery.
No hostility.
No punishment.
No chase.
Just a man standing inside his own frame, unprovoked by attention and uninjured by its absence.
That is not cruelty.
It is sovereignty.
The mistake is thinking women are drawn to contempt.
They aren’t.
Contempt is just another form of obsession.
What unsettles people is the presence of someone who is neither seeking nor defending himself.
And a man who does not need to be liked, desired, understood, or emotionally managed becomes difficult to categorize.
And in a culture where almost everyone is begging to be chosen, the person who is not auditioning becomes impossible to ignore.
The idea of “handling” a sigma is amusing. You don’t handle the sigma, you handle other people so the sigma can do his thing.
What is the difference between omega indifference and sigma indifference?
Nobody notices or cares if omegas are indifferent, alive, or dead.
Also, Omega indifference isn't really indifference. It tends to be more narcissism or solipsism.
Thank you.
lol 💪
It really is fascinating how they can't leave indifference alone. They have to test it every which way, and if the indifference gives way to some sort of care or reaction, it's like they breathe a sigh of relief and move on.
What's even more fascinating is how, even if they decide the guy is a total jerk, that sort of "hatred" can shapeshift into adoration in an instant.
Emotional drama is to women what the sex drive is to men. They are the "emotionally dynamic" side of the two genders. Guys are typically low-emotional and continuously static. So trying to get a strong reaction from a guy has been a long-spanning pastime.
Women need reorienting more often than not, especially when it comes to relationships. A good man is stalwart in his expressions of interest and disinterest, basing his reactions in reality instead of whatever machinations his brain has summoned. Being real like this can either ground women back to reality, or create a kind of cognitive dissonance that causes them to spiral for a bit.
PUA style game teaches men to fake this indifference.
Filling my day with productive tasks and socialising, combined with facing myself in the mirror every morning, makes it actually possible.
With a little help from Hypergamouse
You pretending to be someone you are not is going to end badly for you one day.
Thank you for the feedback. It’s true for anyone.
Have we met?
No.
Should men maintain the behaviors described in this post during courtship, long term dating, early marriage and long term marriage? To what degree should men express gratitude to their significant other during the phases of a relationship? Or to "engage positively with them"?
Taking pages from Anna Karinina, the alpha cycled between charm and detachment/indifference. Anna's delta husband seemed to be indifferent to her - his dedication to his work and the marriage was absolute. Levin seemed to express interest in Kitty leading up to their wedding and then post marriage established a level of rigidity is he is the leader of the couple and that he shall be firm with her rather than soft.
Category error. This post demonstrates sigma behavior. It is not a guide for the non-sigma.
I saw the word "Discombobulation" and then thought, wow, we really are finally going to get that one gloves-off and hard-hitting Studio 54 documentary that we have all not really been asking for, which finally answers the question, "why did Disco allow itself to be mbobulated?"
On top of all that, it's always a kick in the teeth to be reminded of how gravely uninteresting I really am.
It's all a mystery, ain't it? Woman: the Crown of Creation; the engima wrapped inside a riddle. Appreciate your posts here. Godspeed
Women aren't the crown of anything.
Crown of creation?
Maybe he's referring to those cardboard Burger King crowns that you get with their (hurl) kids' meals?
Kinda goes into the normie take that women only like assholes. Under the Rational Male model emotional indifference is interpreted as a high status marker. Some guys are sufficiently high status that the women go to him, not the other way around. Indifference marks him as being attractive to numerous women and she ain’t nothing particularly special. The draw of hypergamy is women wanting to get with men that are typically out of their socio/economic reach. Indifference is a polite rejection for not meeting the bar. So she’ll be miffed for a while because she wasn’t up to the standards of that guy. Who’ll likely have free rent in her head for a time.
This is very true. Disinterest to woman is like waiving a red cape in front of a bull.