Discombobulation

Women are often uncertain how to handle Sigmas

It’s very, very easy for a man to establish himself in a superior position to a woman as well as set himself apart from the average man. And yet, for some reason, it is something that most men find almost impossible to do.

Just be polite, be civil, and don’t respond to the woman’s invitations with any degree of interest or warmth. This does not mean being negative, which of course is how most low-status men always end up playing it and is a mistake because women quite correctly read negativity as emotional heat - women only care about interest, not polarity.

What they can’t get their heads around is genuine indifference. For some reason, perhaps because they just don’t encounter it directly very much, it’s like catnip to them. That may be why they’re always trying to get a rise of one sort or another out of men, whether it is being friendly, being provocative, or being bitchy, they’re looking to see how genuinely impervious a man is to their various theatrics and dramatics.

I don’t know. I don’t pretend to know. All I know is that I’ve never done worse with women than when I genuinely tried to engage positively with them, and that they almost uniformly tend to prefer my natural state of complete disinterest in them, their feelings, and everything they think and say.

I will confess it can be amusing to later hear, days, weeks, or even months later, how some woman thinks that I’m a jerk simply because I don’t respond to any of her performative actions with anything but mild courtesy.