Contemplations
A crush on a woman is always distracting
Women usually know when another woman likes a man of their acquaintance before the man does. Unfortunately, they seldom share their observations with said man, particularly if the interested woman happens to be attractive.
I’ve always found it a little strange that the women closest to a man are often the least helpful to him when it comes to finding a girlfriend or future wife. They’re constantly pushing various unsuitable plain Janes with whom they happen to be acquainted on him instead of actually helping him with the sort of women he obviously prefers and with whom he’s usually involved. Just totally useless. Perhaps the women here could explain this seemingly counterproductive behavior; I would think that it would make sense for the women of a family to prefer high-quality wives for their male relatives, but perhaps that’s just irrelevant male logic.
I can’t really blame my mother for opting out on the assistance front, however. She arranged a meeting once with what was sold to me as a very pretty blonde girl who was the daughter of a friend of hers down in Florida. And the young woman was, indeed, beautiful. Unfortunately, as we both immediately realized when our mothers introduced us, we’d already been on a singularly disastrous date two years before when she’d attended my high school in Minnesota for a few months. She had no personality, no sense of humor, no discernible interests, and all the charm of a hibernating swamp turtle.
You know a woman’s personality is dreadful when she’s that beautiful and your instinctive reaction is still “oh, Hell no!”
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She doesn't want to set up her male relatives and friends with beautiful women because she wants to be the prettiest.
Every woman wants to maintain the primary influence over as many people as possible. In mothers in law, this has become a stereotype because who could be good enough for her little boy but really a wife should take precedence. It's the same female logic as not wanting a male best friend to date - it's keeping a man available to meet your needs and preventing new women with their own agenda from competing with your resources. Women exercise control and power indirectly and beautiful women are inherently resistant to this because of the attention they carry. The most benign reason to not introduce a man is because a woman has projected some undesirable personality onto a beautiful woman.
It's rare for a woman to be willing much less able to prioritize the welfare of all the people in her life. Those who do become matriarchs and are well-loved and protected. You're right, women aren't very good at serving their best interest.