Now, it should be stressed from the start that women, just like everyone else, have an absolute right to their own opinions. If they want to believe that water is dry, that hippos can fly, that Ukraine is winning its war with Russia, or that men are most highly attracted to fat, frumpy, middle-aged women with short hair, that’s absolutely fine.
But that doesn’t mean that it is wise or necessary to take those opinions seriously.
Since women tend to be solipsistic, they are naturally inclined to a) take everything personally and b) take offense at objective reality. And when objective reality happens to intrude upon their solipsistic illusion bubbles, it usually causes them to react with anger that inspires direct personal attacks on the individual most responsible for puncturing their illusion bubble.
In person, this usually results in an incoherent rant. On the Internet, it reliably produces what is often described as a wall of text. Recently, in response to a post here on the science of intra-female competition and the way in which competitive women have been observed to attempt to improve their status vis-a-vis other women by convincing them to render themselves less attractive by cutting their hair shorter, one woman triggered by the science and the shocking idea that, on average, men find shorter hair on women less attractive, produced several classic walls of text in response.
Is there, perhaps, more to the life of a woman than worrying about whether random strange men find her hair style attractive?
Does she have other concerns to which she devotes her time and attention?
Might she - at whichever phase of life she finds herself - prefer that her hair stays out of the way and not require too much time-consuming maintenance... particularly since she still attracts people to her with her beautiful eyes, dazzling smile and makeup that complements her face?
Might it be that people find this woman attractive and enjoyable company because of who she is, what she does and how she treats other people...in other words, her SUBSTANCE?
Has none of this ever occurred to you? If so, you really don’t want to hear what women have to say about men’s facial hair.
It doesn’t take a great mind to conclude that this was penned by a middle-aged woman with short hair who doesn’t want to believe that she has rendered herself less attractive than she had previously been. But it’s not completely incoherent, it’s just solipsistic rhetoric that asks questions the woman doesn’t actually want answered, not that this prevented several men from rejecting her implicit demand to be regarded as the ultimate arbiter of what men are allowed to find attractive.
No. No man cares about ANY of those things with regard to attractiveness, no one does although women lie about it, because well... you really need to invest in a dictionary. Attractiveness in this context is literally based entirely on the physical look of the woman.
No, because attraction is not based on who she is, what she does, or how she treats people.
The fact that men dared to tell a woman their own opinions, and even worse, inform her that her opinion about male preferences were incorrect, inspired no less than three subsequent walls of text that should be read in their entirety to observe the common passive-aggressive female tactics on display:
You’re dead wrong about this. Stereotypes are odious. There are notable exceptions to every rule. Long hair for women is one. It suits some, but not others. And those others are no less attractive for their shorter hair styles.
Consider the woman who has thick curly or wavy hair, for instance. She lives in a humid climate. Summer weather is exceptionally arduous. It’s necessary to wash her hair frequently due to the heat & perspiration. It costs her an absolute FORTUNE in hair products to maintain a long hair style. And it never looks good for more than an hour, before the steamy weather ruins all the work she put into styling her long locks.
As soon as she steps out the door and gets hit with humidity, she ends up looking like she’s been struck by lightning. All that effort styling her long hair (at least one extra hour per day) has turned out to be for nothing.
A shorter, manageable cut with the right conditioners and gels to deal with the excessive humidity ends up looking both attractive - and most importantly - well-groomed. As opposed to looking like a hot mess trying to fulfill an unrealistic stereotype of femininity - imposed by people who are NOT FEMININE.
The important thing is that she leaves the house looking like she made the effort to look her best. She looks good and FEELS good about her appearance. For some, this means long hair. For other women, a shorter style shows off her features to best effect.
You have to work with what you’ve got in the circumstances you find yourself in. Once you understand what limitations you have and work within them to make the most of your situation, you end up looking like the very best possible version of yourself.
Sometimes that means opting for shorter hair styles using a moderate amount of hair products... regardless of what some uninformed men may think.
More frequent trims with a shorter cut generally means a woman’s hair looks very sleek and updated, as opposed to unkempt and straggly. Women with shorter hair often opt for subtle highlights in their hair to make their complexion look softer and brighter. These extra touches give women with shorter hair CONFIDENCE in their appearance, which is always an attractive quality.
You are immature and stuck in an era and a way of perceiving the world that is long over.
People evolve and change over time...and so do their tastes and priorities. You are clearly stuck in a state of suspended adolescence. This is NOT an attractive quality.
As for myself, I’ve always attracted the interest of men of a variety of ages and statuses in every stage of my life...and with every length of my beautiful locks.
You sell your own gender short (probably to cover up your own anxieties). Most men are far more interesting and interested than you describe. There are loads of men who like all sorts of women.
However, as they mature, these men require someone with common interests, someone they can really talk to, someone who is compatible and is good company. If she is well-turned out, well-groomed and confident in her manner, most men cannot help but feel an attraction. And they don’t refrain from expressing appreciation of their female counterpart.
You can observe this happening all around you nearly every day and in all sorts of interactions...if you have eyes to see.
Women don’t find attractive closed-minded men who rely on stereotypes - particularly about women - to navigate through life. You strike me as an individual with a very limited outlook on the world...and a plethora of insecurities that you need to seriously reflect upon. Seriously, this way of thinking is repellant to any worthwhile woman. Character in a man matters to her, probably more than anything else.
The woman you describe is essentially a CHILD. An adult woman who looks and behaves as a child would - particularly during difficult times such as these - is a LIABILITY. Being partnered with a weak person doesn’t make you look strong. It’s, in fact, the opposite. Women of ALL ages lose respect for you.
You could not be more mistaken about confidence. Your assertion is ABSURD. Confidence, competence and ability are extremely attractive to EVERYONE. It foretells success in just about any endeavor. To be closely allied with such people is instinctive for survival and essential for family formation.
Most emotionally-secure people prefer to surround themselves with individuals who possess these undeniably positive qualities, because they are interesting, stimulating and inspiring. Generally a GOOD influence. You seem to misinterpret confidence in women as an inappropriate display of arrogance. That’s YOUR liability and it would serve you well to get past that.
Life is too short to spend your life surrounded by passive, timid individuals whose role is to guard a man’s fragile ego. A lot of men were raised to think as you do. It’s a weakness, not a strength. These attitudes make women LOSE confidence in some men, regardless of the length of their hair.
There are some fascinating opinions expressed here that are worth observing:
Pattern recognition is wrong and distasteful. One cannot learn anything useful from experience, observation, or statistics.
Feelings are determinative. Feelings trump objective reality and other people’s opinions.
Harboring an opinion with which the woman disagrees is immature and outdated.
The woman is equally attractive to high-status men at all ages, no matter what she does with her hair.
Harboring an opinion with which the woman disagrees is emotionally insecure, unattractive, and close-minded.
Men are attracted to female confidence, clothes, and grooming. Only immature men are attracted to pretty women with long hair, whose willingness to appeal to men’s preferences is childish, weak, passive, and timid.
Expressing an opinion that disagrees with the woman’s opinion is conclusive proof of a whole host of personal inadequacies.
What, exactly, is a man supposed to do with that information? What utility is there in attempting to understand and apply it to one’s life? The only possible conclusion, the only reasonable one, is that there is no reason to pay any attention at all to this sort of irrational incoherence.
Which is not to say a man should ignore all opinions and statements that happen to be expressed by women, only that it is literally nonsensical to even attempt to take seriously, or at face value, those that are produced in response to an emotional triggering. At the end of the day, the fact is this: men also have a right to their own opinions and preferences, no matter what women might feel about them.
I believe that their is in the Bible, a statement or assertion to the effect that a woman's long hair is her glory. But, don't let me get in the way of the construction of our Post-Modern longhouse.
I know few men who take sociological studies seriously, particularly from "science journals" with ridiculous titles like 'Personality and Individual Differences,' which leads me to suspect that the author of Sigma Game is either a rather petty beta male who feels the need for his personal opinions to be affirmed by "bonafide empirical evidence"...or, perhaps, the author is really a woman who is unduly convinced that her long, stringy hair, falling limply around her face, is her sexiest attribute; and her friends, who are forever trying to convince her to cut her hair, are the Delilah to her Samson.