Why Single Women Need to Stay Off the Apps

Social media is now negative social proof for women

I thought this was a perspicacious observation of the way in which dating apps and social media have significantly damaged the sexual and marital marketplaces for Generation Z.

Dating apps and social media introduced distribution at scale to the sexual marketplace and almost nobody understands what that actually changed. Before the apps and social media, everybody dated in their real life. Their city, their circle, their league. Then suddenly, every woman had access to the most attractive men in her area with dating apps, and with social media, the world. And men who never would have approached her in real life were now a swipe away at midnight.

So now her experience changed. She’s getting attention from the top, but the top doesn’t commit. He doesn’t have to. He has the same access she does. So instead of adjusting, the culture renamed it. Situationships, rosters, “keeping options open.”

Meanwhile, the average guy became invisible in the lineup. Not because he got worse, but because the venue changed. And the women who’d eventually circle back to him at some point? He’s aware of that plan now. Social media told him. So now he’s preemptively out, locked in on himself, Red-pilled, or checked out of dating entirely.

No one course corrected because nobody had a reason to tell them to truth. Men say whatever gets them through the night, women don’t warn each other, and so expectations on both sides just kept inflating. And now the first generation that ran this whole experiment is hitting their 30s and finding out that access is not the same thing as options.

Both sides are lonelier than any generation before them and each side is convinced that the other one is broken. Nobody broke it. The venue did, and the venue doesn’t care.

This is why it is important for a young woman who wants to get married to stay off the dating apps, and, unless she is very self-disciplined, she should probably avoid social media engagement as well.

Only a woman who isn’t on the dating apps and can honestly say that she’s never been on them is going to be fully trusted by the average young man, and it’s very, very difficult for young women to resist the dopamine addiction offered by all of the affirmation available on social media.

If you have real-world objectives, the less time you spend in the imaginary world, the more likely you are to achieve them.