Why I Don't Tell You Anything

For many high-value men, reticence is a learned behavior

While I realize that taking offense at a man’s opinion, his feelings, and at his answers to a direct question is a woman’s prerogative, I would like to submit that this is an irrational and counterproductive female behavioral pattern due to men’s preference for avoiding unnecessary emotional conflict.

Not only is this offense-taking unnecessary, manipulative, and annoying, but it absolutely guarantees that any man with even a modicum of self-control is going to leave you entirely in the dark about his opinions, his feelings, and even what is going on in his life. I’ve heard many women complain over the years that their husbands and sons are increasingly closed-off to them, and I’ve yet to observe any of them recognizing that they, and their behavior, are the culprit, and that this habitual reserve on the part of the men in their lives is an obvious reaction to their proclivity to take offense so easily.

The reason that this is more a problem for women in a relationship with high-value men is twofold. First, neither Deltas nor Gammas are capable of keeping their mouths shut when anyone asks a question of them. The Delta need only be asked for an explanation and he will readily pour forth information like a fountain, while the Gamma doesn’t even need to be asked to embark upon a long monologue about his Very Important Feelings. It will take a considerable amount of offense-taking on the part of a woman before the Delta finally concludes that his need for self-expression just isn’t worth the price he’s going to pay for the privilege.

The Gamma, of course, will probably enjoy the drama and take offense at the offense-taking. I don’t actually know, since I actively avoid any opportunities to observe Gamma relationships in the wild, but there does appear to be an amount of emotional drama to them.

Second, women with high-value men tend to feel less in control of them, for the very good reason that they have considerably less leverage over them, and so their sense of emotional precariousness encourages them to react in an excessively negative manner to even innocuous comments on the man’s part. Their solipsism and lack of empathy tends to play into this behavior, as they insert themselves and their feelings into situations that never involved them in the first place, just as Mindy does here with Apex.

Men are perfectly capable of learning from experience. So when a woman “wins” a conversation by transforming a man’s words into a rhetorical attack on her and forcing him to retreat from his own expressed feelings, opinions, or observations, she should understand that she hasn’t convinced him to change his mind in the slightest. Instead, she has convinced him that she can no longer be trusted to hear his feelings, opinions, and observations, and he will conceal them from her in the future.

Mindy has now all but guaranteed that the next time she asks Apex what is going on, his response will end with “not much”. In fact, if you are a woman and that is the customary response from a man to your inquiries, you can be confident that he does not trust you enough to talk to you about anything important to him unless it is absolutely necessary.

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