Speaking of cancer, my wife's friend found out about three weeks before Christmas that she had stage 4 cancer. Within less than two weeks she passed away. She had opted to not go see the doctor until the symptoms could no longer be ignored.
A friend of mine would always try to meet the grandparents of a prospective fiancee. They are usually eager to spoil the beans on the girl, as they didn't raise her directly.
“Or maybe you’re a reformed high-status player and 15 strikes you as an average summer and something akin to a rounding error.
The point is that body count is merely one of many potential red flags and it is far from the most serious. About one in five women has been on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, and I would absolutely bet on an over-enthusiastic party girl, high-class escort, or even an OnlyFans whore before I’d even think about dating a drug-addled depressive. It does matter, and it should be taken seriously, but it is also not the only factor to take into account when contemplating a prospective relationship with a woman.”
HALLELUJA!
I have been advising young men that come to me with that strict puritanical/incel perspective exactly along these lines, but it’s extremely well stated and concisely explained here.
Those statistics are real but they do not apply equally to all men. It is absolutely true that the average man almost certainly cannot reform/make a good wife out of a high class escort/OF whore or even just an exuberant party girl. But that is not to say no man can’t. That ex-manwhore guy is likely to be able to. Advisable? Probably not, but possible? Certainly. Not to mention the fact that a man for whom 15 is a rounding error is just as unlikely to find everlasting happiness with a 20-year old virgin. Pretty much in all things, it’s always a good idea to play in your own range. Be it a team sport or seeking a suitable wife.
Some men can mix both high and low styles of the language. Some men like both high intellectual humour and low poop jokes. Some use only one. He clearly can't.
His 'my dude' is an attempt with the usual bro, homie, brother in Christ, my nigga, and so on. If it lands this poorly, he is the wrong guy, or doesn't do it well or both. If you're not a funny guy, you should leave the jokes to the bullied clowns and the comedians.
1) "A woman in the first category is 4.2 times more likely to be married and 2.6 times less likely to be divorced than a woman in the third category. "
That alone can't really be used as an indicator for future marriage success. Marrying early keeps women from accumulating more partners, so obviously at any given time the married ones will have less and since the main reason to stop accumulating partners is that she found "the one", the ones with less partners are likely to be married.
I'm convinced the metric is valid and useful, but this simple statistic doesn't support it.
2) "About one in five women has been on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors"
I know a case where she got SSRIs for having a strong and inecplicable headache for some time. She stopped taking it after a while. But hearing this cost her as well as the health care system a lot of standing in my eyes.
Chronic headaches are an indicator of depression. Lots of things that you wouldn't suspect are symptoms of depression. Before I got treatment through the VA, I matched all but 2 out of over 20. I had discounted depression because despite all of that, I was still optimistic.
Yes, it absolutely can. You're forgetting that a woman's decision to marry early, or to delay marriage, is itself a reflection of her values and her relationship value.
The fact that women who marry young and early are more likely to stay married is significant in itself.
You're confusing indicator with cause. Whether body count is just a proxy or an actual cause is irrelevant.
Let’s not also forget the spiritual component of sleeping around. There is something spiritual that happens to people when they do that with multiple people and it has repercussions. For sure someone can heal from that, but I think it is a major reason why those statistics are prevalent as they are. Sex is much more powerful than our vacuous culture says it is. We have reduced it to a mere physical act, but it goes far beyond that.
Another red flag is hormonal birth control. The longer she’s been on it the more of a problem it can be. It often goes with SSRI usage. It turns out screwing up a woman’s hormones with the intention of suppressing her ability to create life makes her depressed.
USED CAR GUY: Sure. We have one that just came in an hour ago, my service tech is looking it over. While we wait, would you like a CARFAX?
MY DUDE: Not necessary, thank you.
CAR GUY: Well, if you're not interested in the car's prior owners or it's history... Oh, here comes my tech. How's the car?
SERVICE TECH: It looks good, great lines, very curvy. The engine is great, revs up really quick.
MY DUDE: When I'm ready to go, so is she. Hey hey!
SERVICE TECH: We also found several bullet holes in the rear and a hidden panel in the trunk concealing two trash bags full of cocaine and hundred dollar bills.
MY DUDE: Please, don't inflame my retroactive jealously by implying someone else might have had more fun with this model than I ever will.
I suspect that this guy is a part of the manufactured op to maintain the continued divide between men and women. Its another aspect that adds to the current plunge in dating, marriage, family building, etc.
By the gamma's logic, companies should just hire the first person to apply for a job because interviewing candidates would only uncover disqualifying issues.
Speaking of cancer, my wife's friend found out about three weeks before Christmas that she had stage 4 cancer. Within less than two weeks she passed away. She had opted to not go see the doctor until the symptoms could no longer be ignored.
A friend of mine would always try to meet the grandparents of a prospective fiancee. They are usually eager to spoil the beans on the girl, as they didn't raise her directly.
I live under the assumption that I will never know any woman’s true body count.
Just take the hints you can gather, then multiply by between three and six.
Gollum says, "Precious body count no matter"
“Or maybe you’re a reformed high-status player and 15 strikes you as an average summer and something akin to a rounding error.
The point is that body count is merely one of many potential red flags and it is far from the most serious. About one in five women has been on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, and I would absolutely bet on an over-enthusiastic party girl, high-class escort, or even an OnlyFans whore before I’d even think about dating a drug-addled depressive. It does matter, and it should be taken seriously, but it is also not the only factor to take into account when contemplating a prospective relationship with a woman.”
HALLELUJA!
I have been advising young men that come to me with that strict puritanical/incel perspective exactly along these lines, but it’s extremely well stated and concisely explained here.
Those statistics are real but they do not apply equally to all men. It is absolutely true that the average man almost certainly cannot reform/make a good wife out of a high class escort/OF whore or even just an exuberant party girl. But that is not to say no man can’t. That ex-manwhore guy is likely to be able to. Advisable? Probably not, but possible? Certainly. Not to mention the fact that a man for whom 15 is a rounding error is just as unlikely to find everlasting happiness with a 20-year old virgin. Pretty much in all things, it’s always a good idea to play in your own range. Be it a team sport or seeking a suitable wife.
Inaction is the gamma's preferred course of action. "If you don't shoot, you'll never miss".
In this case: "Don't shoot - you can never know if you actually hit the target".
Maybe I'm just getting old and grouchy, but when men say "My dude" I actively recoil.
Any chance you could turn this guy into a strip?
Some strips on the subject of dating history and how each sex and SSH rank handles it would probably be a good idea.
So we're not gonna see a "My Doof" webcomic?
Some men can mix both high and low styles of the language. Some men like both high intellectual humour and low poop jokes. Some use only one. He clearly can't.
His 'my dude' is an attempt with the usual bro, homie, brother in Christ, my nigga, and so on. If it lands this poorly, he is the wrong guy, or doesn't do it well or both. If you're not a funny guy, you should leave the jokes to the bullied clowns and the comedians.
I don't know that I've ever seen "my dude" work, specifically.
It struck me as something John Scalzi would say.
1) "A woman in the first category is 4.2 times more likely to be married and 2.6 times less likely to be divorced than a woman in the third category. "
That alone can't really be used as an indicator for future marriage success. Marrying early keeps women from accumulating more partners, so obviously at any given time the married ones will have less and since the main reason to stop accumulating partners is that she found "the one", the ones with less partners are likely to be married.
I'm convinced the metric is valid and useful, but this simple statistic doesn't support it.
2) "About one in five women has been on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors"
I know a case where she got SSRIs for having a strong and inecplicable headache for some time. She stopped taking it after a while. But hearing this cost her as well as the health care system a lot of standing in my eyes.
Chronic headaches are an indicator of depression. Lots of things that you wouldn't suspect are symptoms of depression. Before I got treatment through the VA, I matched all but 2 out of over 20. I had discounted depression because despite all of that, I was still optimistic.
Yes, it absolutely can. You're forgetting that a woman's decision to marry early, or to delay marriage, is itself a reflection of her values and her relationship value.
The fact that women who marry young and early are more likely to stay married is significant in itself.
You're confusing indicator with cause. Whether body count is just a proxy or an actual cause is irrelevant.
Guys. Dont obsess about it but dont ignore it. Trust your instincts on this one
After years of ssh learning i still didnt correctly categories this guy
Subtext: If I don't ask her about her body count, maybe she won't ask to see my browser to learn what unnatural forms of pornography rev my engine.
It’s not about the porn - he doesn’t want to know, or have to admit to her, that her number is higher than his
Did you consider the fact that she can do this regardless of whether you ask about her history?
Let’s not also forget the spiritual component of sleeping around. There is something spiritual that happens to people when they do that with multiple people and it has repercussions. For sure someone can heal from that, but I think it is a major reason why those statistics are prevalent as they are. Sex is much more powerful than our vacuous culture says it is. We have reduced it to a mere physical act, but it goes far beyond that.
I despise that guy.
Another red flag is hormonal birth control. The longer she’s been on it the more of a problem it can be. It often goes with SSRI usage. It turns out screwing up a woman’s hormones with the intention of suppressing her ability to create life makes her depressed.
MY DUDE: I would like to buy a car, please.
USED CAR GUY: Sure. We have one that just came in an hour ago, my service tech is looking it over. While we wait, would you like a CARFAX?
MY DUDE: Not necessary, thank you.
CAR GUY: Well, if you're not interested in the car's prior owners or it's history... Oh, here comes my tech. How's the car?
SERVICE TECH: It looks good, great lines, very curvy. The engine is great, revs up really quick.
MY DUDE: When I'm ready to go, so is she. Hey hey!
SERVICE TECH: We also found several bullet holes in the rear and a hidden panel in the trunk concealing two trash bags full of cocaine and hundred dollar bills.
MY DUDE: Please, don't inflame my retroactive jealously by implying someone else might have had more fun with this model than I ever will.
Do I get to keep the bags and their contents if I buy the car? Asking for a friend.
No the car 'doesn't do that stuff anymore' it was a phase.
I suspect that this guy is a part of the manufactured op to maintain the continued divide between men and women. Its another aspect that adds to the current plunge in dating, marriage, family building, etc.
By the gamma's logic, companies should just hire the first person to apply for a job because interviewing candidates would only uncover disqualifying issues.