When Signals are Successfully Sent

There are many ways women signal their interest to men

I’ve got some reservations about this post, mostly because the negative reactions are both predictable and inevitable. But, since I am writing what may be the definitive book on the subject that contains this information, and since if you are reading this, you have presumably come here to benefit from both my experience and my observations on the subject of intersexual relations, so therefore I should probably be a little more open about the former than I have hitherto been.

Also, I’ve come to realize that not doing things because Gammas are always going to Gamma is a very poor metric because they’re always going to do what they do anyhow, no matter what you do.

Anyhow, there are three things to keep in mind as you read this. One, while all of it is true, it’s not comprehensive. Two, not only have I left out a number of similar examples, but for reasons that should be completely obvious, I have not included any of the signals that I missed over the years. Three, one should not assume that I necessarily responded to the various signals, only that I did pick up on them and interpret them correctly.

This is for the benefit of both men and women. The former so that they can understand what it actually looks like when a woman is sending them an indication of her interest. And what it means is that the ball is now in your court; note that a goofy smile and a cheerful willingness to wait for her next move is never, ever, an appropriate response. I repeat: the signal means the ball is now in your court. The latter, so women can understand how their more attractive competitors seek to attract the notice of a high-status man; the least attractive example below was a 7, several were definite 10s.

One thing that is apparent, upon reflection, is that the more attractive a woman is, the bolder and more shameless she tends to be about sending an interest signal. I suspect this is a combination of a) greater self-confidence in her appearance, b) less fear of rejection, and c) stronger awareness of the competition. So, here are ten real-world examples of how women have sent a signal indicating their interest at one time or another.

• Grabbed arm while interrupting conversation with other woman and aggressively inserted herself into the conversation.

• Requested escort to strip club for her super-hot best friend’s birthday party crew.

• Locked eyes, walked across room, kissed on mouth, “hi, I’m…”

• Approached at table, asked if either of the two wing-girls were dates.

• Invited to accompany her to post-game drinks. Post-game drinks turned out to be for the women, their husbands and boyfriends.

• Surreptitiously flipped up skirt while walking away and looking back.

• Locked eyes, looked up and down, and loudly said “yum” to friend.

• Honked horn and had friend lean out of window to inquire as to destination.

• Slipped piece of paper with telephone number into breast pocket, then patted the pocket.

Can you hold her gaze? That’s the immediate test.

Note that in pretty much every case, no matter how strong the signal, some form of action, or at least reaction, is required. Passivity is quite literally for losers. These are not women who will tolerate male timidity and there are no second chances.

Also, I don’t count the many times that women have grabbed my biceps, triceps, chest, or backside because that sort of physical interaction almost always appears to be more out of sheer curiosity than any genuine interest or attraction. Women apparently feel absolutely no shame about violating a man’s personal space merely to see what his body feels like, and many don’t even hesitate to do the very sort of thing for which they would scream sexual harassment, if not rape, if a man were to treat them the same way.

Admit it, ladies. I would bet that every single one of you has squeezed a man’s arm, or some other part of his body, without any warning, without asking permission, and without even harboring any particular attraction to him. Correct me if I’m wrong, but that sort of thing isn’t usually a reliable signal of interest, in my opinion.

Now, this is not to say that women don’t sometimes send conflicting signals, or send signals that turn out to be false, because women don’t always know what they want. Remember, women are extremely dynamic beings, so a woman can change her mind in between the time that she sends what would appear to be a very clear signal of her attraction and the man’s opportunity to respond appropriately to it.

But, in general, if you’re not obtuse and you possess a reasonable amount of self-confidence, you should be able to comprehend when a woman is indicating that she finds you attractive and would like to know if you happen to find her attractive too.

Note for the narcissists, fantasists, and authors of letters to Penthouse Forum. This is not an invitation to tell us all about that one time at band camp… literally no one cares that there was once a time that a woman actually might have showed a modicum of interest in you, or that you were just too obtuse to respond appropriately. What would be interesting, however, is to hear from women who have sent signals that were not successfully received, as well as how those signals were sent.