Use Your Knowledge, Don't Share It
Knowledge is for using, not trying to impress others
For some reason, a lot of readers here observably struggle with the concept that knowledge is for self-utilisation, not for sharing with, educating, or trying to impress others.
READER: Good point about "women seem to only relate to things through themselves" I had a female friend who I thought liked me. But each time I began to talk about one of my problems she always began to talk about herself, without real interest for what I was saying. I always thought it was just her and not all women were like her. If you have not empathy and compassion from your wife, why to marry or have relationship?
SIGMA: Because you probably don't have it either. Most men don't. Are you going to simply not engage in human relations because most people can't read your mind?
READER: I struggle with this because everyone repeat everytime that women are more sensitive and attentive than men. It seems hard to demonstrate in a conversation.
SIGMA: MPAI. Most People Are Idiots. Why would you care what everyone simply repeats without ever once even thinking about it?
READER: Yes. So when a group of people say things like that, do you stay silence or do you have to react to try to fight the stupidity?
SIGMA: I ignore it and keep my mouth shut. I don't argue with dogs every time they bark either. I don’t care what they think and it's not my job to be the reality police. The very idea of fighting the stupidity is itself intrinsically idiotic, given the way in which the most obviously apt metaphor is King Canute trying to fight the sea.
Here is an example of what I’m describing, and we can safely predict that the results were not concomitant with either the objectives or the effort of the would-be educator.
I had this conversation with a few days ago. A friend of mine, an intelligent woman, is going through a rough time in her personal life and projecting her situation on relationships in general. I was discussing this and how women tend to follow their in group preference. She told me it was a strong statement to say that all women lack empathy. She then proceeded to tell me that I lack empathy sometimes. She had no response to me replying that it was, in fact, sympathy I lack and that I had pleanty of empathy. I linked the relevant blog posts, hopefully she read them.
When are men like this ever going to learn? The point is to make use of the knowledge you gain here for your own benefit, not be a Smart Boy and try to explain it to others. It is absolutely futile and counterproductive to articulate the SSH and Game-related concepts to women because all you're going to get is reactive pushback and denial. Which also tends to suggest that the man does not, in fact, have plenty of empathy or he would have known better than to broach the subject or argue with a woman about the nature of women.
The first rule of utilizing the SSH effectively is to never mention the SSH or any emanation or penumbra from it to anyone else unless it is absolutely necessary. Definitely don’t mention it to women, much less start mansplaining to them what the characteristics and common attributes of women are. Even if you’re right, no, especially if you’re right.
And what I mean by “absolutely necessary” would be a situation when you're legitimately expected to provide an explanation for why you decided to reject a job applicant or a prospective new member of your organization. Even then, couch your explanation in general terms, don't decide this is the perfect time to educate everyone and start explaining what a "Gamma" is. Just say something like "based on my interactions with him, I'm confident he won't be a good fit for us. I think he’s going to be a problem and we would regret bringing him on board."
If you’re such a master of behavioral patterns, then how is it that you’ve forgotten that the average woman will aggressively, and pedantically, dispute the simple statement that all women have vaginas as well as the traditional dictionary definition of "woman". Given that, think for two seconds about what they're most likely going to do when presented with something as abstract and counterintuitive as a statement about empathy?
Deltas, Gammas, and Omegas, please, please, please listen to this:
STOP EXPLAINING!
For once, just try keeping your stupid fucking mouths shut and stop seeking to impress people with your amazing and very important newfound knowledge. It doesn't work, it has never worked, and it will never work. So stop it!
On a note related to the recent Empathy Challenge, I thought it might interest those of you who liked Disney Souvenir to hear the song on which was musically based. Vibe Patrol released Cosmic Trigger: Fly Your Freak Flag yesterday, and while the musical similarities should be apparent, so, too, should the thematic differences. It’s a complete remake of an unreleased 1992 Psykosonik song that Paul and I wrote about Tokyo Disneyland.
You can listen to it on a variety of platforms, including our own UATV.
Application example:
Wife was having a tough time with a queen bee lady. After listening to her talk about it repeatedly I asked for her phone and saw the text history. Told her going forward send only two texts to her three, and the texts could not be longer than ten words.
After two weeks I wasn't hearing this complaint anymore. She never asked nor understands why things changed.
It's just as how women don't care about the why, only that things just work for them.
Notice God tends to just say "do," not drown us in explanation of "why." When explanation is given, it's plain and short like "so that you may have a long life on the earth."
After the woman read the linked blog posts, she had a perspective altering epiphany, and was ever greatful to her friend for sharing his knowledge and altering her world view.
Of the things that never happened, this never happened the most.