They Chose Poorly

The costs of not choosing a family are already hitting women hard

A former feminist belatedly sees the writing on the wall for women rapidly approaching retirement age:

While choosing whether or not to start a family may seem like a preference today, it will have severe economic consequences in the future.

Women aren’t getting the most out of their careers. And because they took on debt to pursue those careers, whatever discretionary income they have, they’re not putting it towards retirement savings. Women are already more dependent than men on welfare programs like Medicare and Social Security.³ But because of technological job disruptions heading our way, women’s dependence on unearned external support will likely increase in the years to come.

This raises a whole host of social questions that need to be answered sooner rather than later.

Women are taking more from the benefits pool than they are putting into it. Men are aware of this that’s why they’re dropping out of the workforce in record numbers. A man doesn’t want to work to support a petty wife who’s going to divorce him and take half of everything he owns. And because many men work high-paying jobs, they’re also paying more in taxes. Men working long hours maintaining oil rigs or repaving roads, don’t want to subsidize women who chose to spend their careers taking poolside Zoom calls.

About 15 years ago, I was one of the first to point out the obvious social cost of encouraging more women in higher education: fewer marriages due to the intersection between female hypergamy and too few college-educated men. Since then, the mainstream has begun to become aware of the problem, although the obvious solution still frightens everyone and will not be implemented before the higher education system collapses.

We’re still about 15 years out from the next feminist cataclysm, which is what happens when all these childless cat ladies become unable to take care of themselves properly, remember their medical appointments, drive to them, and so forth. And let’s not even get started on how they will become obvious targets of various forms of crime.

This cost of ignoring the traditional patterns of the past are brutal. And no amount of forced smiles, antidepressants, and Live Laugh Love posters on the wall are going to provide an adequate substitute for being ensconced in the protective embrace of husband, children, and grandchildren.

Life has always been a cycle. If you refuse to play your part in that cycle, it won’t be long before you’ll discover that the cycle no longer has a place for you in it.

We all like to think that we’ve got so much time when we’re young. But as a man who is now closer to the end than the beginning, I can tell you it is absolutely unbelievable to look back and see how fast it has flashed by.

And there is no treasure greater, no accomplishment more satisfying, then one’s family. Too many of us, and I include myself in this, were never taught that and simply did not know enough to prioritize it.