My husband and I both say openly that our biggest regret is not starting a family sooner. I met him when I was 23 and didn't have a child until I was 30. I'm now 35, and I've been pregnant 4 times but still only have 1 living child. The reality of the challenge of actually making the children is hitting us pretty hard, and my dreams of a big family have dissolved into "Gee, well I hope we can at least have two!"
Hopefully my daughter learns well, marries well, and has a big family of her own. I pray my husband and I will be able to support her enough that such a prospect looks appeal to her.
There is a lot of mental illness with childless aging women as they near 60. They are going against the biological imperative. Not only will these spinsters have no family but many will have varying degrees of dementia adding to it.
Man versus WOman. Male versus FEmale. The capitals make all the difference. A man with a womb is a woman.
The two genders are totally different, due to two main factors: different physical strength, and the ability to give birth. These two factors result in two complete different psychologic traits.
For argument sake, let us consider that 40% of women just want to be mothers, 40% want to be both mothers and professionals, and 20% just want to be professionals. For the first ones, the choice of husband is paramount. For the second ones, the choice of husband is still important. For the third ones, the choice of husband is less relevant. Probably, they will never get married.
Men are deep thinkers with a natural tendency to dive into problems in order to find long term solutions. Women are superficial thinkers with a natural tendency to lean on intuition in order to find short term solutions, vital to protect their children. Women can give birth to great men, great men can give birth to great things.
"Behind a great man, there is a great woman." I wonder who invented that slogan. Only a woman could do it it. All great men sincerely disagree. Behind a great man there is no woman at all. Sorry ladies... Men and women are great for who they are, not because of who they sleep with.
As in everything, there are exceptions. Some women are more masculine minded than most men, and some men are more feminine minded than most women. The first case sounds positive. The second case, not so much. I wonder why...
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Mr. Musk, we must colonize both planets.
My best friend in this life could not have children while I had five and, as of this week, nine grandchildren, with the prospect of many more. I always have his congratulations and he's genuinely happy for me but the pain of not having his own shows.
Adoption certainly has its place but raising DNA not your own, especially outside of your nation, has significant challenges. Those who do so successfully and for the right reasons have my regard.
Throughout civilization, your family, wife, children were your retirement/401(k)/IRA. You help take care of your children's kids, and your kids in turn help take care of you as you get older.
The devil takes particular pleasure in convincing us to sacrifice that which is valuable for something that isn't.
Sacrificing kids in order to be a cubicle worker is a terrible exchange, and thats not even taking into account the sacrifice of your own soul that happens when you make such a bad bargain.
My wife and I married at 18 and started having kids at 22. No one in our lives encouraged or discouraged having children, but made sure we had plans for contraception and to enjoy our time as only a couple...
I am thankful for you and Owen actively making the case to grow our family, and will do the same for my children and all around me. About to welcome our 4th child in the near future (before turning 30), and God-willing that means I'll have at least 16 grandchildren, and hope to live to see many great-grandchildren!
We have five young kids and I'm struggling through pregnancy symptoms with number 6. I really appreciate this post and these comments reminding me about the rewards coming someday. I can see it if I look at my husband's grandmother, who lives near us.
She got married at 18, had five kids, and most of them had three kids or more. The majority of them stayed nearby, and she is now surrounded by her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. We all adore her and she always smiles so big whenever she gets to hold a great-grandbaby.
One day it has to come out how men are absolutely subsidizing everything that women do.
It made me sick years ago when I used to read women on Facebook writing “ I have a lot in everything I have nothing was given to me by a man”
Girl, you wouldn’t even get a glass of water without men 99.4% of water and sewer workers are men we would not have a constructed house. We would not have electricity. We would not have heat. We would not have policeman, garbage, waste, recycling, we would not have fireman, we would not have architects, weather so much!!!
From reading old books and observing more traditional cultures, everything seems to run smoother when women accept that the invisible labor is their full-time job; that they are made to support the men while the men do bigger and grander things.
me an my wife of 30 years are now caring for her elderly widowed mother whom is 86. She can not drive anymore, but does live on her own. We take her on all her errands and most of her other appointments. Cook her dinner a few nights a week. What you say is so true. What if we didnt exist?? Who would do these things for her??? At first she was a little frustrated at losing some independence, and felt like a burden, but now she realizes we do it out of love, and we see alot more of her than we ever did. My adult boys dont live in town, but when they come home they will some times fill in and run errands with her. She loves this, giving her time with her grandkids. People that choose to never marry, or even those that do marry and never have kids, will one day be her. And when that day comes the coulpe they used to go to brunch on sunday funday or vacation with will be a long ago memory. They will be resigned to a life of solitude, and if there health fails a ward of the state left to rot in some assisted living facility. I preach the importance of marriage and starting a family to any young person that will listen. It is the most rewarding thing in life, and no career or freedom to travel or anything else comes close.
Yes, but it seems mission impossible to find and be loved by a wife that you can really trust and build together
My husband and I both say openly that our biggest regret is not starting a family sooner. I met him when I was 23 and didn't have a child until I was 30. I'm now 35, and I've been pregnant 4 times but still only have 1 living child. The reality of the challenge of actually making the children is hitting us pretty hard, and my dreams of a big family have dissolved into "Gee, well I hope we can at least have two!"
Hopefully my daughter learns well, marries well, and has a big family of her own. I pray my husband and I will be able to support her enough that such a prospect looks appeal to her.
There is a lot of mental illness with childless aging women as they near 60. They are going against the biological imperative. Not only will these spinsters have no family but many will have varying degrees of dementia adding to it.
Bad choice for the cat lady in the illustration. She’s actually attractive for an older woman. Short hair and polyester double-knits would cinch it.
WOMAN
Man versus WOman. Male versus FEmale. The capitals make all the difference. A man with a womb is a woman.
The two genders are totally different, due to two main factors: different physical strength, and the ability to give birth. These two factors result in two complete different psychologic traits.
For argument sake, let us consider that 40% of women just want to be mothers, 40% want to be both mothers and professionals, and 20% just want to be professionals. For the first ones, the choice of husband is paramount. For the second ones, the choice of husband is still important. For the third ones, the choice of husband is less relevant. Probably, they will never get married.
Men are deep thinkers with a natural tendency to dive into problems in order to find long term solutions. Women are superficial thinkers with a natural tendency to lean on intuition in order to find short term solutions, vital to protect their children. Women can give birth to great men, great men can give birth to great things.
"Behind a great man, there is a great woman." I wonder who invented that slogan. Only a woman could do it it. All great men sincerely disagree. Behind a great man there is no woman at all. Sorry ladies... Men and women are great for who they are, not because of who they sleep with.
As in everything, there are exceptions. Some women are more masculine minded than most men, and some men are more feminine minded than most women. The first case sounds positive. The second case, not so much. I wonder why...
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Mr. Musk, we must colonize both planets.
My best friend in this life could not have children while I had five and, as of this week, nine grandchildren, with the prospect of many more. I always have his congratulations and he's genuinely happy for me but the pain of not having his own shows.
Adoption certainly has its place but raising DNA not your own, especially outside of your nation, has significant challenges. Those who do so successfully and for the right reasons have my regard.
Family truly is wealth.
Throughout civilization, your family, wife, children were your retirement/401(k)/IRA. You help take care of your children's kids, and your kids in turn help take care of you as you get older.
The devil takes particular pleasure in convincing us to sacrifice that which is valuable for something that isn't.
Sacrificing kids in order to be a cubicle worker is a terrible exchange, and thats not even taking into account the sacrifice of your own soul that happens when you make such a bad bargain.
My wife and I married at 18 and started having kids at 22. No one in our lives encouraged or discouraged having children, but made sure we had plans for contraception and to enjoy our time as only a couple...
I am thankful for you and Owen actively making the case to grow our family, and will do the same for my children and all around me. About to welcome our 4th child in the near future (before turning 30), and God-willing that means I'll have at least 16 grandchildren, and hope to live to see many great-grandchildren!
Apart from having many children, what do you recommend for retirement planning and investment?
I don't. I'm not a financial advisor.
Family and community is wealth. The world isolates you to keep you powerless and poor.
We have five young kids and I'm struggling through pregnancy symptoms with number 6. I really appreciate this post and these comments reminding me about the rewards coming someday. I can see it if I look at my husband's grandmother, who lives near us.
She got married at 18, had five kids, and most of them had three kids or more. The majority of them stayed nearby, and she is now surrounded by her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. We all adore her and she always smiles so big whenever she gets to hold a great-grandbaby.
It was a shame that so many of us had to rely on FAFO to understand the true consequences of feminism.
Women (us all really) are now entering the FO stage. I see promising signs that some of the youngsters are taking note.
For the career cat ladies though, I see little hope.
Life is cyclical, everything comes full circle.
One day it has to come out how men are absolutely subsidizing everything that women do.
It made me sick years ago when I used to read women on Facebook writing “ I have a lot in everything I have nothing was given to me by a man”
Girl, you wouldn’t even get a glass of water without men 99.4% of water and sewer workers are men we would not have a constructed house. We would not have electricity. We would not have heat. We would not have policeman, garbage, waste, recycling, we would not have fireman, we would not have architects, weather so much!!!
Wake the blank up you dumb bitches !!!!!
Ironic considering women always complaining about Invisible labor
From reading old books and observing more traditional cultures, everything seems to run smoother when women accept that the invisible labor is their full-time job; that they are made to support the men while the men do bigger and grander things.
me an my wife of 30 years are now caring for her elderly widowed mother whom is 86. She can not drive anymore, but does live on her own. We take her on all her errands and most of her other appointments. Cook her dinner a few nights a week. What you say is so true. What if we didnt exist?? Who would do these things for her??? At first she was a little frustrated at losing some independence, and felt like a burden, but now she realizes we do it out of love, and we see alot more of her than we ever did. My adult boys dont live in town, but when they come home they will some times fill in and run errands with her. She loves this, giving her time with her grandkids. People that choose to never marry, or even those that do marry and never have kids, will one day be her. And when that day comes the coulpe they used to go to brunch on sunday funday or vacation with will be a long ago memory. They will be resigned to a life of solitude, and if there health fails a ward of the state left to rot in some assisted living facility. I preach the importance of marriage and starting a family to any young person that will listen. It is the most rewarding thing in life, and no career or freedom to travel or anything else comes close.