The Gamma's Curse

Negativity is a self-destructive social anchor

One of the things I most often advise young men is to stop being so negative. Negative thoughts, negative words, negative attitudes, all of these things tend to drag a man down and prevent him from even reaching mediocrity, let alone success or excellence.

And sharing that relentless negativity with others only makes them want to avoid you. It’s both tedious and tiresome to constantly hear a negative take on everything, and what most negative people fail to realize is that once others recognize their negativity, they stop telling them things. If you find yourself constantly being left in the dark or discovering that you don’t know a lot of things about your friends and family, you should consider what your reliable reaction to being told anything tends to be.

Here is one example from yesterday’s comments. It came in response to an older man’s discovery that he is considerably more attractive to women post-divorce than he was to them when he was young.

GAMMA: Ehh. The women chasing such a man are well past their own prime. It's a lament that, even though women are supposedly pursuing him now, he was somehow "not worthy" before, and now that he is, he doesn't care to be "worthy" of such post-wall women. Their own worth isn't enough to make being worthy of them a prize. At least, that's how I interpret it, but that's a Gamma perspective so probably not worth much on its own.

SIGMA: It is fascinating how the Gamma can always find a way to find something negative in literally everything.

GAMMA: It's a curse. No, really, it is. I wish dearly I wasn't like this.

Note the immediate Gamma tell. I can’t overemphasize what a total giveaway that sort of interjection is. It wasn’t even necessary to read beyond the first word to know exactly what his take was going to be. Another Gamma commented on this exchange via email.

I find myself in this pattern myself, I would grind, win, and then have an influx of female attention on me and then I would fail to move to the next step with them regardless of whatever red flags or whatever Churchman poison or Genuine Christianity command at the time. And then feel like a loser, and then pick myself back up and then repeat…

But I cant live past these history as they loop back and back again reminding me how much of a loser I am when I can confidently say that I am doing awesome work. How do I break this loop? Because I feel like at the point in my life whoever I ended up meeting is going to as past her prime. Is this the luciferian pride and sin of “I DESERVE…”?

Gamma tell: two “myself” plus an “I” in first phrase, six self-references in the first sentence.

I think there are three problems here and they are all related. First is the total absence of any empathy or sympathy whatsoever for anyone but the Gamma himself. The older women now interested in the older man, or the young woman with flaws and red flags, may not be prizes by the standards of an Alpha in the prime of his life, but neither is an old divorced man or a thirty-something Gamma who has never been married.

Second is the obvious negativity, both directed inward and projected outward.

And third is the failure to be realistic about one’s own potential appeal to others. No one wants to be around a relentless downer who never has anything good to say about anyone except himself.

Since a number of people mentioned that they enjoyed hearing Soulsigma’s PERFECT STRANGER yesterday, here is a song that debuted yesterday on AI Central as part of a technical review that just happens to serve as an excellent metaphor about negativity being a drag, an anchor, and even a killer. It’s called FADE TO BLACK.

So what is the solution to this anchor of negativity? How does one free oneself of it?