The Coffee Date

The sooner you know, the better

Social media is full of women discussing the pluses and minuses of the so-called “coffee date”. The discussion is inspired by entitled women declaring, rather optimistically most of the time, that they will automatically reject any man who asks them on a coffee date instead of committing to spend several hundred dollars on them for a “real date”.

As always, pay zero attention to what women say and watch what they do.

The reality is that a woman who is into you will very cheerfully accept an invitation to literally anything. It doesn’t matter if it is an invitation to a free weight workout and she doesn’t even lift. It doesn’t matter if it is an invitation to a family function and she barely even knows you and has no interest in meeting your family. It doesn’t matter if it is an invitation to attend church on Sunday and she’s not a Christian.

If she is into you, she will go.

Conversely, if she isn’t interested in meeting you for a coffee date, then she isn’t into you. And she still isn’t into you if she agrees to let you take her to an expensive restaurant, to a big-ticket sports event, or fly her to Tahiti. She’s just willing to use you in order to obtain the experience.

Trying to impress women is what a man does when he is out of his league and he knows it. Don’t do that. Live, love, relationships, and marriage are difficult enough without increasing your difficulty rating by trying to establish an incompatible, unbalanced situation.

So if she haughtily rejects your invitation to a humble coffee date, don’t be angry or upset, be relieved that she showed you who she was and spared you a lot of time, money, and emotional turmoil from the start.