Projection is Failure

Never assume others share your preferences and interests

Both men and women alike are often guilty of projecting their own preferences and emotions onto the opposite sex. This inability to understand that others have very different feelings and like totally different things is prima facie evidence of their total lack of empathy.

It’s also indicative of a certain lack of intelligence and observation, for as I have pointed out many times, it is simply not possible for two binary sexes to have the same hypergamouse preferences, regardless of whether that concerns height, intelligence, or earning power. Therefore, one had better hope that one’s partner is attracted to a different level of height, intelligence, or whatever else it might be, because it is extremely rare for two individuals to be precisely matched on all accounts.

Remember:

Hogomas, hergomas, girls are hypergamous.

Hergomas, hogomas, boys are hypogamous.

The mistake that proud, smart, educated girl boss Cate has made is that she has become the sort of man to whom she is attracted. And although she has figured out that her approach doesn’t appear to be working very well, the relentless bombardment of decades of feminist propaganda serves to reinforce her delusions about her attractiveness to high-performance, high-status men, even when she is gently warned by her friend Mari.

She has the same problem that many Deltas and Gammas do, which is to assume that the possession of a strong level of attraction to a woman makes the man attractive to that woman. But women don’t value male interest the way men treasure female interest, so as with Cate, what they believe is their greatest asset is actually worthless.