Never, Ever, Explain the SSH
What part of "shut up" and "stop helping" is so hard?
A longtime reader relearns one of the first lessons of the SSH:
Can confirm for the 50th time that mentioning the SSH around your woman is most likely to end in a fight. I don’t understand why they have such a desire for men to analyze things without using it. I really should just stop at this point.
My life would be far simpler if I did. In fact, I think that’s why I will stop. It’s just not worth the hassle, honestly.
To be fair, she did ask. And I answered honestly without thinking how it would cause dissonance. Then it did, and I thought to myself again, “I really should just skip that part next time for simplicity’s sake”. To be clear, she didn’t ask about the SSH. But she asked about something that for me clearly involved it.
Women naturally and instinctively hate the SSH on sight. And it’s not at all hard to understand why. Women depend on men for every aspect of their existence. They are neither equal to men nor independent from them. The quality of their lives is almost completely dependent upon the quality of the man they attract and upon whom they choose to rely.
Furthermore, they are in a constant social battle to the death with every other woman on the planet, a relentless, pitiless war with esoteric rules and exotic weapons that men don’t even begin to understand.
This is why they quite purposefully ensconce themselves inside a web of mystery, intrigue, chaos, and confusion that allows them to hide their intentions, motivations, and objectives from men and other women alike, all of which are dynamic and liable to change from moment to moment depending upon what the woman is feeling.
So it shouldn’t be a surprise that when a clueless man proudly introduces the woman to his new laser glasses that allows him to accurately see through a reasonable amount of the mystical fog that she uses for purposes of both protection and manipulation, she’s unlikely to be pleased about them. She gets hostile for precisely the same reason that women instinctively attack the concept, this site, and me when they first encounter it; they feel threatened by the effective power it could, in theory, remove from them. It’s a predictable reaction, and I don’t know very many women who haven’t reacted to the SSH in much the same manner as a vampire to the cross.
But it’s just an initial reaction. If and when a woman happens to get past that feeling, it will eventually occur to her that she can use it effectively to her benefit, as one reader recounts.
My wife loves discussions about it, she has used it effectively to deal with men outside the household, and she was giddy when her hardcover copy of Sigma Game arrived. She also got over her boiling hatred of VD’s posts on the reality of women years ago, and realized he’s right most of the time. That certainly didn’t happen overnight!
But notice that even this woman, who quite literally bought the book herself, had an initial reaction that was extremely negative. In my opinion, that sort of intensely negative reaction is inevitable, because the truth is always a painful shock to any system that has been steeped in lies for decades.
So never, ever, explain the SSH to anyone, and especially not a woman. Just use it, quietly, to your own advantage. You’re not going to impress anyone with it; trust me on that one. I don’t know one single person who I’ve impressed with it, I’ve never once had anyone pay me to help them utilize it in the workplace despite the fact that I think it’s potentially far more important than the various design jobs and other business consultancies for which I’ve been hired, and I’m the one who created it.
Ask yourself this: by telling this other person about the SSH, what am I hoping to accomplish? If it is to make yourself look better, or smarter, or anything else in that regard, just don’t do it. Because it’s not going to work any better than explaining gravity to them will.
Anyhow, I’d be interested in hearing from the women here, particularly those who actively support the site, what their initial reaction to their first exposure to the SSH was.
I just taught my brother about the SSH. I did it not for my own benefit, but because he is a Delta that just got promoted to his first management position over a bunch of Deltas and Gammas. His initial reaction was ick, just because of the Sigma memes, but I told him just ignore the Sigma part because you almost certainly don’t supervise a Sigma anyways, and focus on identifying who is a Delta and who is a Gamma, and act accordingly. He appreciated the advice and now he’s going to try and utilize it. Tellingly I never told him what his rank was, but he instantly understood that he’s a Delta in a situational Bravo role.
Meanwhile I’ve never told my wife about the SSH specifically, I just tell her occasionally that I read management guides on how to predict male behavior, and occasionally talk about categories of my employees without using Greek Letters. I’ll just say, “this person is like Jim,” and because I told her so many work stories about Jim, she know I mean that this person is a Gamma, without even knowing about the SSH. By not tying it to sex, she doesn’t find it offensive.
I may be an outlier here, but I don't remember having a negative reaction to learning of the SSH. That may be because it helped enormously to explain why my Sigma husband was the way he is though, and why he had extremely different motivations and behaviors from any other man I knew.