It's Pretty Simple
"Be Yourself" is not entirely vacuous advice
Both Deltas and Gammas tend to be chock-full of advice about women despite the fact that few of them have much in the way of either experience or success to offer. Which, of course, is why it is wiser to do the opposite of what a low-status man recommends, to the extent that one pays any attention to it at all.
It’s always rather remarkable for high-status men to listen to the many excuses, justifications, and rationalizations that are on offer to explain why doing what observably works is simply not possible, and that one should instead do is behave according to some hypothetical theory of woman that is constructed on the basis of nothing but the low-status man’s self-serving imagination.
Then again, on the other hand, advice from Alphas tends to come off as rather opaque, simply because it’s difficult for the natural to explain in sufficient detail what is as obvious to him as breathing. But then, how does one explain what it is like to not be afraid, and how one behaves in the absence of fear, to the naturally fearful?
How does one explain the assumption that things will, by and large, probably go well to those who never do anything and have no experience of things going well?
If I were to boil down my advice to young men to the essence, it would be this: stop trying to impress anyone. Just do whatever it is that you do with the conviction that it is what you are supposed to be doing. Because if you can’t do that, why are you doing it in the first place?
If I am here, then this is the right place. Since I am here now, this is the right moment.
The admonition to “be yourself” is not necessarily the vacuous advice it is commonly taken to be. It’s more of a reminder of the tautological reality and a warning that it is not really possible to not be yourself.
"Say/do it with chest."
My 16 y.o. son's advice to his friends who struggle to talk to girls, try out for a team, or whatever other thing they are scared to try.
The other day in the grocery store he was chatting up a very pretty pregnant lady in the snack aisle. When he came back to me, he smiled and said, "Just getting some practice reps in."
That is the best description of what "being yourself" should mean. It's easy to take that phrase and try to present an idealized version of yourself and, since our motivations and actions are usually transparent, that comes off as an actor playing a role.