For some reason, women are irrationally hung up on the question of confidence. Perhaps this is because approximately 745 percent of all commercials directed at them convey the message “buying this product will increase your confidence.”
They also, wrongly, believe that they are attracted to confident men, which is obviously incorrect if one ever sees their reaction to a self-confident Gamma armored by a delusion bubble impenetrable to reality.
The following commenter actually imagines that behavioral patterns are nothing more than a natural consequence of one’s level of confidence.
When a person is in a social situation there is a simple fact of the matter about how comfortable they are or how confident they feel. Just to state it in a straightforward way, there is certain level of fear that each person has about the disapproval of the others with whom they are interacting. It is this that is creating most of these effects. In my estimation, gamma behavior is the behavior of a person who is very afraid of the disapproval of others but who just can't admit it to themselves. If one is just honest with themselves about the simple fact that they are experiencing fear of disapproval or rejection they can avoid gamma behavior. It won't make them an alpha or a sigma, that is for those whose level of fear of disapproval/rejection is very low. But it will avoid the very off-putting, passive-aggressive that doesn't align with the unconscious body-language and other non-verbal cues that scream that they are afraid.
This is why I always tell men to pay no attention to what women say about intersexual relations. They don’t understand themselves well enough to even begin to understand others, in whom they have no genuine interest anyhow given their solipsism. This is just one step removed from the retarded “just be yourself” advice that is the usual advice from women to men; telling a Gamma to “just be honest” with himself is akin to telling a short man to “just be taller” or a crippled man to “just have better posture”.
Anyhow, confidence can’t possibly be an explanatory model for SSH, as it can’t account for the difference between Alpha and Sigma behavior, as Sigmas arguably have more confidence than Alphas yet lack their authority in the hierarchy.
This, on the other hand, is much more effective advice.
Women come in three flavors;
Those who will decide you’re attractive immediately
Those who do not but whose feelings you can change with effort
Those who never will
Categorize, do a cost benefit-analysis, and escalate/invest accordingly.
But do it quickly and confidently, confirmation bias is a powerful tool.
In other words, fail faster, keeping in mind that the vast majority of women fall into either the first or the last category. It’s certainly possible for friendships to turn into romances, and though never experienced it myself I’ve personally witnessed this, but it’s usually a matter of literal YEARS.
Three seconds. That’s all the time you’ve got to attract a woman. So don’t invest much more than that in any new female acquaintance. If the spark isn’t immediately apparent, move on.
Another commenter shrewdly connected the Delta tendency to pedestalize women with the strange conservative tendency to instinctively side against those to whom they are nominally connected.
The delta delusion is rooted in conflict avoidance, which transcends to treating the woman right, like a princess who is blameless. To him, the use of vulgarity is offensive to her. I have seen that the lower the status a man is, the more likely he is to avoid conflict. The situation worsens when you have a CEO who sides with the client, even when they are wrong, against his employees.
And finally, this exchange between a woman and what could be either a Gamma or an Omega is exactly the sort of unnecessary nonsense that every low-status male should assiduously avoid at all costs.
WOMAN: Body language makes a huge difference. Don't know if you've ever seen the movie Bedazzled with Brendan Frasier, but I remember being amazed at the time at how an objectively attractive man could morph into an objectively, extremely unattractive one with only a little in the way of costuming and makeup. He mastered the art of being smoldering in one scene to being utterly cringey in the next.
GAMMA/OMEGA: Yeah, makeup is black magic.
I have no idea what this sort of retarded pedantry is supposed to accomplish. Is it supposed to be witty? Is it supposed to be some sort of rebuttal? Anyone with a three-digit IQ understands that she’s talking about acting, speech patterns, and body language; she even says “only a little in the way of costuming and makeup”.
To respond with this sort of sarcastic contrarian snark is not just a red flag with regards to SSH, it’s a city-wide tornado-warning horn complete with a Gamma signal being beamed into the night sky.
I can’t stress this enough for the low SSH men: no matter how bitter you might be about the unfairness of life, never, ever, comment on the behavior of others, particularly women, unless you are directly and specifically asked to do so. You don’t just offend the person at whom your comment is directed, you reveal far more of your own stunted psychosexuality than you would probably believe possible.
For some reason, most people seem to believe that the critic is superior to the acting individual, because he assigns himself the position of judging the other’s words and deeds. But this is entirely backwards; do you think Brandon Sanderson or Tom Cruise give even a phantom of a fraction of a damn about what some book or film critic has to say about anything?
You’re not elevating yourself in anyone’s eyes by actively reminding everyone that you’re riding the short bus on the way to the peanut gallery.
But man, aren't you also nothing more than a critic?
Best advice I ever got was exit stage left. And it was basically the advice in this post.
When I was younger the advice I liked but had difficulty applying till later was the fisherman's analogy.
Fishermen don't generally like the taste of bait. But the fish loves it. Things don't have to make sense to work.
Anyways I have personally found that when encountering a situation where you are afraid of what will happen. If you don't have stake in the game, or aren't committed to going for what you want. You don't get a stake in the winnings but you DO still get left with losses.